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Doesn't matter how you say it.......... 2/26/2016
It doesn't matter how you say it, the person on the other
end 95% of the time gets offended. Its a lose lose situation.
I have said it so many different ways, changed my profile
so hopefully they wouldn't even email me (that does't
work, men look at pictures), I have even just deleted the
emails being rude and not saying a word but that don't
help either cause they continue to email ...
9 Comments, 79 Views,
14 Votes
,4.58 Score
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You have to say what you mean.... 2/1/2016
There are some people who think that "no" is
the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them.
Some people believe if you say "no" you will
lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless
and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put
you in a poor position.
So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's
actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...
3 Comments, 27 Views,
10 Votes
,5.38 Score
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You have to say what you mean.... 2/1/2016
There are some people who think that "no" is
the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them.
Some people believe if you say "no" you will
lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless
and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put
you in a poor position.
So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's
actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...
0 Comments, 3 Views,
2 Votes
,1.73 Score
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They get there and they aren't what you expected 1/21/2016
Has anyone ran into the situation where you invited someone
from Swapfinder.com over with adult fun in mind only to find they are
not as advertised? How did you handle this situation. I'm
sure it is really awkward for everyone involved. Or maybe
there was something that just turned you off when they finally
got there. How did you handle saying "no thanks"?
6 Comments, 157 Views,
14 Votes
,4.74 Score
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I might be too blunt 1/13/2016
If I'm not interested it's going to be a straight
up answer. I am nice but blunt is anyone else like that or
am I the only bitch. If you n I have nothing in common I'm
sorry but it's not happening
NO THANKS
2 Comments, 33 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Temptation NOT 1/5/2016
Remembering my fun days i just sit back and smile. Always
been great at showing my passion when i have sex. Saying
this to say i have had a lot of unforgettable times. But time
stops for no one if you don't take care of your self it
shows. So when a old sex partner hits me up on social media
I look sometimes and be like damn what happened. No thanks
even if i remember how delightful your pussy ...
0 Comments, 13 Views,
0 Votes
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"No Gracias" 1/4/2016
There was one time where the person said please do me so hard
and I said no.
2 Comments, 26 Views,
4 Votes
,1.69 Score
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YES or NO 12/13/2015
we do say YES when its come about sex life and normally word
NO in sex life was just a word thats mean nothing. As long
we live and ability to want means YES to our sex life
2 Comments, 20 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Ass lick 11/22/2015
Why girl ass makes man horny..
3 Comments, 29 Views,
6 Votes
,4.22 Score
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Sent mixed signal and chasing a lost of interest 11/11/2015
This is usually the reason why people pursue after someone.
Because they thought they may be interested in them or may
possibly give them a chance however when the individual
decides to say no then the aggressor typically a man ( Man
dominated cultures and in this chase America) thinks the
chase (woman/man) is just playing hard to get. It is the
flirts, misinterpreted body language that has ...
0 Comments, 30 Views,
10 Votes
,4.38 Score
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rejection on reason basis and strength of rejection 10/30/2015
some people just do not like to accept "i don't
like you" as an answer. what could be done in this case?
one of the good choices could be reasoning and explaining
the reason unless he/she is some kind of psycho, in which
case rejection should be strong and exempt from reasoning
2 Comments, 22 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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NO! 10/29/2015
Hey Look Ppl - No is NO and they usually [90%] mean just that
= NO. Once should be enough! To keep going is not only pointless,
but it is also very annoying and can lead only to trouble.
Listen and comply.
2 Comments, 19 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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JUST SAY "NO". 10/8/2015
Some people are just so sweet hearted that even on a sex site
they have difficulty saying NO to someone who is trying
to get them into bed. No one enjoys being rejected but...for
something as serious as giving my body to someone for their
pleasure and me indulging in theirs I feel a need to be extremely
picky. Maybe if you don't get many invites and you are
desperate to get laid your expectations ...
16 Comments, 155 Views,
31 Votes
,6.50 Score
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Traveled the Road Less Traveled 10/4/2015
Well Ladies and Gentlemen, I tried to travel down the road
less traveled and let me tell you... I learned some major
lessons.
As Oprah would say, what I know for sure is... what I like
and do not like and what I will and will not tolerate.
Let me explain I traveled down the road of younger guys and
what my experience was... the sex was great, but... and
we all know that the but ...
3 Comments, 74 Views,
11 Votes
,4.48 Score
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How many times to say no? 9/25/2015
We have several members who continuously message their
interest in us. We do try to answer when someone takes the
time of message us but just how many times must one do that?
Is there a way to block a member when they become a nuisance?
4 Comments, 32 Views,
7 Votes
,5.59 Score
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FILLES open sur la rivesud de montreal ?? 9/19/2015
Yas tu du mondes sul party a soir
0 Comments, 2 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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How do you feel when you make a "date" for swinging and the other party does not show up? 9/12/2015
Whenever a party says they will meet for a sexual encounter
and they do not show up, what do you do?
6 Comments, 39 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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whoa can we meet you before your genitals 9/6/2015
Why ...just why lol do people think it is attractive to send
genital pics in their 1st ever message to you like hi this
is my stuff do you like....um I don't even know anything
about you yet...immediate turn off
5 Comments, 45 Views,
11 Votes
,6.35 Score
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How to say "no" 9/3/2015
My wife and I have been in this situation a few times and it
is always difficult. We were in a group situation, invited
to a party where there were several couples we knew and there
was one guy out of the bunch that my wife found very unattractive.
Later on in the evening there was group play going on and
we didn't end up playing at all because she was uncomfortable
with having to say no to ...
2 Comments, 60 Views,
4 Votes
,5.19 Score
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Male Head vs. Female Head 8/28/2015
This is a repost of an blog I did in 2012
I am just flabbergasted about a NSA that I had with a dude
here on Swapfinder.com. 1st of all he did not read my post. 2nd he was selfish and lazy. 3rd he wanted me to give him head but not return the favor.
4th he had the ordasity to get upset about it. 5th he still wanted to have sex after I left.
This is a 38 year old man (now he's ...
4 Comments, 82 Views,
17 Votes
,6.24 Score
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Harsh Articulation 8/15/2015
In response to the email I received asking if I am interested
in you I will begin by stating that I read your profile thoroughly
in an effort to offer a no ‘bs’ and sincere answer. Typically
I would simply not take the time to read through a profile
without a profile picture attached. It shows a lack of confidence
and conviction. That, in and of itself, is less attractive
than the homeliest ...
5 Comments, 48 Views,
8 Votes
,4.87 Score
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Taking "no" for an answer: A How-To Guide 7/15/2015
There are many, many people who breach our inboxes everyday,
sending all sorts of stuff.
First of all, I'll respond to a message with just "hi",
before responding to someone saying what they want to do
to me. It's called respect. If I turn you down-take
it the first time. Don't try to keep getting me to say
yes. I've made my mind up. It's not going to get
changed. So please, when I deny ...
1 Comments, 54 Views,
16 Votes
,5.48 Score
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Say No Gracefully 6/21/2015
If something is not working out, just let the other person
know as soon as possible. When you tell them, be as gracious as possible. Thank then for what they have done for you in the past and/or
pay them a compliment. Then, gently let them know that things
are not working out, why they are not working out, and then
tell them that things must end. When you tell them the reasons,
try not to blame ...
5 Comments, 41 Views,
12 Votes
,5.98 Score
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Hard sometimes 6/3/2015
Now, there have been sometimes where Ive been straight
just given ass and had to turn it down. I consider myself
a bit of a sex addict if you will, but even still its good to
sometimes say no. Even with a condom, they're some
pieces you gotta avoid like the plague's coming back
lol. AT least in el paso there was, I'm in SA that'll
be a slightly different story but we'll see.
0 Comments, 20 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Women don't have a patent on preference 6/1/2015
There's no doubt that the man to woman ratio on this
site is 500/20. That means a man has a 4% chance of actually
getting as much attention as a woman on here. This doesn't
include couple status. The women seem to be the smart ones
on here. The ones worth talking to are selective, as a man
should be. Some people just don't get it though. All
I can do is shake my head when I hear a woman talk ...
7 Comments, 70 Views,
9 Votes
,5.14 Score
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But they won't go away! 5/16/2015
I have met a few guys on this site. I usually message back
and forth, then either make a decision whether I want to
continue on or cut the ties. Behavior that is persistent,
constantly messaging me on my phone while I'm asleep
or at work...ugh! This is why when I get messages from guys
I know there is not a chance in hell we will have any chemistry,
I don't respond. I also have a message that ...
4 Comments, 71 Views,
17 Votes
,4.12 Score
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no thanks 5/15/2015
no thanks
0 Comments, 9 Views,
2 Votes
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I agree with something SensuousShades said..... 5/1/2015
If I am approached in a polite respectful manner....I will
likely respond in the same way. You get what you give.
If you repeatedly email me "hey lets fuck",
"me in ur pussy" Or "come suck my cock"...
You will get nothing from me. Honestly, I don't "owe"
anyone anything if I don't even know them. That's
part of the territory in this community. If you don't
get a response......don't be ...
6 Comments, 62 Views,
19 Votes
,7.21 Score
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30 pts post(ignore) 4/5/2015
How can mirrors be real if our eyes aren't real?
2 Comments, 11 Views,
3 Votes
,3.92 Score
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At least say No! 3/13/2015
Just wish if you contact someone they would say No! Saying
nothing is worse.
9 Comments, 105 Views,
15 Votes
,4.36 Score
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How to let down some unwanted suitor. 3/4/2015
Ever have this happen to you.. You check out your e-mail
and find someone from the same sex hitting on you, or a sexually
unattractive member wanting you to have an encounter with
them. Face it the world is a crap-shoot. That's the
adventure called: romance. How to not to seem rude and decline
the offer. Just say in a polite manner, " I'm flattered that you have found me attractive, but I'm
not ...
10 Comments, 86 Views,
11 Votes
,3.17 Score
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It's funny. 3/2/2015
I always appreciate it when someone says no thank you politely.
I don't mind if they say "no interest".
At least you know, there is nothing there. I do find it interesting
that some people, just stop talking with you. You never
know if they got cut off, or are not interested. So please,
be blunt and say one thing or another, don't just go
silent.
5 Comments, 30 Views,
8 Votes
,4.41 Score
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Mean People Suck 3/1/2015
I've been here for while. I've been successful.
I had a lot of fun, and I've met some very special ladies.
I think about each one as a bottle of wine, the bottle that
I shared with them: Chardonnay, Riesling, a particularly
good vintage of South African Wine, and yes even a Merlot.
I've also met some real jerks, at least on line.
I have sent at least 200 emails to which I received no ...
2 Comments, 59 Views,
5 Votes
,5.10 Score
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recent dinner with a new couple. 2/2/2015
You know when you ask someone to dinner that's what
it is. Dinner! We don't lead in another direction.
So...there is really no need for the dramatics. Recently
invited a couple to dinner it was comfortable good starting
conversations. But for us as a cpl we new immediately there
was no physical attraction. The conversation was pretty
good, so we thought. Talked about sports, vacations and
just ...
6 Comments, 131 Views,
7 Votes
,4.82 Score
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Harder for men or women? 1/29/2015
Who has the harder time saying no, men or women?
5 Comments, 46 Views,
9 Votes
,3.43 Score
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IM 1/28/2015
i am a charming guy trying to make conversation and too many
times i get someone just suddenly end an IM conversation.
isn't there a more polite way to say we should end this?
1 Comments, 18 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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I remeber 12/17/2014
I remember once I was seeing this young lady and she was really
hott and I couldn't wait to be intimate her, after
about a month of seeing each other the time had come, she
took off her pants and before she could even get her panties
off the smell almost gagged, it smelled like she needed
an autopsy I told her I felt like we were rushing the situation
and I was outta there lol
0 Comments, 50 Views,
1 Votes
,1.10 Score
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This has probably has been discussed alot but. 12/17/2014
How do you best say your not interested in another couple
in a face to face meet n greet? I have always respected being
honest with people but sometimes a white lie in these cases
are too bad. Tell me your thoughts ....
1 Comments, 47 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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I think this might mess our friendship up 11/18/2014
Tell them that there a really great person but our friendship
means more to me then just a hook up
1 Comments, 61 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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Saying No 11/13/2014
How would you go about saying no thanks to someone who is
incredibly persistent yet sweet at the same time?
10 Comments, 105 Views,
12 Votes
,3.86 Score
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Too much 11/12/2014
Saying no just got to be too much now we just ignore profiles
that we're not interested in.
4 Comments, 71 Views,
13 Votes
,4.15 Score
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why bother 11/11/2014
I read a few comments about women politely declining men's
advances here on Swapfinder.com. After seeing some responses posted
on Facebook and other sites, I'm not surprised women
say nothing when approached - I've seen a LOT of nasty
responses guys have made to a simple, "no".
Things like, "fuck you, you fat cunt"; "you're
ugly anyway"; "I'm too good for you anyway";
"why the fuck are you on here ...
12 Comments, 126 Views,
14 Votes
,5.38 Score
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No way 11/9/2014
We love the feature that lets us add a message on the IM before
we block them.
5 Comments, 58 Views,
11 Votes
,5.22 Score
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Using IM 11/8/2014
I find that many simply never respond to an IM request for
chat. Is there any etiquette on this matter?
5 Comments, 108 Views,
9 Votes
,4.49 Score
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Testimonials 11/7/2014
Do you sometimes say no thanks to someone that has given
you a testimonial?
6 Comments, 49 Views,
7 Votes
,5.08 Score
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To thank or not to thank 11/6/2014
I use to love going on the IM but I rarely do now because all
it turns into is a steady stream of vulgar come ons from every
jerk ever put on this site. I not only don't say no thanks
I ignore them altogether and let them wonder if their IM
is working.
6 Comments, 63 Views,
18 Votes
,5.85 Score
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No 10/31/2014
Saying no has become very easy to say on this site especially
with single guys.
3 Comments, 41 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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Blocked!!! 10/21/2014
There's no need to feel like you have to answer all these
guys, just block them period.
3 Comments, 44 Views,
11 Votes
,4.29 Score
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No thanks. 10/15/2014
Do single guys realize that most women and couples get hit
repeatedly every day with stupid emails from single guys?
We have jobs we don't need another one answering all
the stupid stuff that comes our way. Oh and here's an idea try writing things that make sense
and that don't reek of coming from an 11 year old.
13 Comments, 77 Views,
19 Votes
,4.84 Score
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The Best Way to Respond to "No Thanks" Replies 10/14/2014
Like anyone who has been on Swapfinder.com for any length of time and
has tried to make contact with someone, I have received
my share of "Thanks, but No Thanks" replies.
I have been told however, that my response to those "No
Thanks" replies is quite different than what most
women receive from those kinds of replies.
I am not rude or abusive to the woman who told me "No
Thanks". I do not whine or ...
0 Comments, 68 Views,
12 Votes
,4.92 Score
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Ignoring people if not interested or politely declining 10/11/2014
What is the outlook on this? Do people prefer to hear back
even if it is not the response they would like to hear or will
being ignored also do the job. Also if you have to deal with unwanted attention do you prefer
to let them know or simply ignore it and the potential backlash
of a "sore loser" along with it?
5 Comments, 43 Views,
7 Votes
,2.53 Score
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Since you asked... 9/30/2014
As I glanced at the articles on the Saying "No Thanks"
page, I noticed that 5/12 of the articles on the first page
were all regarding the fact that women here often don't
give a polite 'no thank you" when emailed or IMed.
I certainly don't expect that posting my reason for
not responding to those who contact me will make a dent in
the future "why are women so rude" questions,
but here goes ...
8 Comments, 113 Views,
18 Votes
,3.81 Score
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Why does this seem to be so difficult.... 9/21/2014
I can understand that a huge amount of requests are posted
on this site especially in the chat rooms & IM, but so
many people just don't have the time to reply with a
polite "No Thanks", it's almost like everybody
is in such a rush or seem to hold themselves in such a high
esteem that it's below them to do so (you know who you
are people, admit it). I was always brought up to be polite and it's ...
7 Comments, 84 Views,
12 Votes
,1.39 Score
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CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR DIRTY SEX MIND? 9/8/2014
A couple of years ago I was really into nipples. Human nipples
in particular (you wanted to take it there). I loved the
way my partner’s nips felt up against my skin, and the
way mine felt against their man-chest and lips. I loved
the sensation and the eroticism of the little weird evolutionary
phenomenon. I think my curiosity turned into a playful
exploration of all the cool things you could ...
7 Comments, 119 Views,
22 Votes
,4.93 Score
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avoid shit 9/4/2014
Sometimes u just have to say no wat is for u is for u don't
rush life avoid unexpected stuff in like avoid say no
1 Comments, 28 Views,
9 Votes
,2.14 Score
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It has to work for both or not at all 9/4/2014
Whenever I talk or chat with someone about meeting, I try
to make it very clear that even though it may sound like a
match and a hot time ahead, you don't know if it works
for you until you meet. Everyone has their own preferences
and attractions, I always meet with the agreement that
if it won't work for either one, it is a thanks, but no
thanks, a handshake, and good luck to you. I am not ...
4 Comments, 84 Views,
3 Votes
,5.39 Score
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Do men read profiles at all 9/2/2014
Yes i like both men and women but at this time I'm looking
for only women to play with but these men seem to think they
can change you mine by saying I need dick if i want dick i will
get dick but i want and need pussy no thank you another black
men s
8 Comments, 81 Views,
13 Votes
,4.82 Score
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Saying No 8/29/2014
When someone isn't attractive to you but keeps coming
at you how do you let them down easy?
3 Comments, 45 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Being Polite 8/25/2014
I wish that people on this site would try a little to be polite.
If somebody sends you a message and you are not interested
in them; just respond back and say that you appreciate their
interest in you, but you are not interested.
I do not think it is very nice to just ignore their message.
Think of it like this: they found you attractive enough
to take the time to send a message, you ...
13 Comments, 108 Views,
25 Votes
,2.69 Score
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not interested 8/18/2014
Why do ppl constantly message you especially on I.m when
you say your not interested and they just keep at it. I blocked
this guy and he changed his screen name 3 times just to keep
bugging me. Why is im not interested so hard to comprehend?
It bugs me with the persistance of some people. I hate to
be rude but sometimes thats all that will work.
5 Comments, 44 Views,
16 Votes
,2.25 Score
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The best way 8/15/2014
What's the best way for a girl to tell you that they aren't
interested? Do you want a response? Is an explanation needed
or is "no thanks" enough? Do guys realize that
many will send back a response that mimics the attitude
that the interest is given?
7 Comments, 55 Views,
9 Votes
,5.56 Score
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BLOG 8/6/2014
Swagswagswagswagswagswagswagswasgswagswagsagsgskdldkdjdjdjd
dididisidiididdjjejjjjjjhjjhjjjjjhjjhhhhhjjjjjjjjujjjhhhnjjnjjjjjjjnnnnjjjj
3 Comments, 13 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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NO THANKS 8/1/2014
Strictly speaking "No thanks" would mean the
person is not giving you any thanks. With a comma, "No,
thanks", means "No, but thank you anyway"
or similar
1 Comments, 21 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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Ways to not say "no" 7/23/2014
If you send someone a friend request and your YIM and then
suddenly start ignoring all messages, even those that
say "Hey, it's ok if you are not interested, JUST
LET ME KNOW, " that is rude. Please just say "Sorry,
I am really not interested in pursuing anything further
with you." Believe me, most people on here are mature
enough to say in response, "OK, good luck, "
and move on to the next ...
11 Comments, 70 Views,
10 Votes
,2.39 Score
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Hypocrisy? 7/12/2014
Swapfinder.com has been a good platform for like minded people to get
to know each other...express themselves. But i guess the
reality is very different. Many a times the profiles are
misleading. The response one gets is so different that
what's in profile. Knowing well that with distance, different priorities
and in general the circumstances it would not be possible
to always meet in person. The big ...
4 Comments, 85 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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just say . . . 7/8/2014
no.
i've already had enough to eat.
thanks though.
k.
bai.
2 Comments, 13 Views,
3 Votes
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The Polite No Thank you 7/5/2014
So, here you are on the instant messenger. You log on to see
who's chatting, someone flashes across your screen
with a hello, you quickly view their profile, you're
not interested! What do you do?
Well, from experience that my significant other has had
on this site, most people just ignore the other person if
they're not interested.
I am one of the types that believe that's not ...
9 Comments, 121 Views,
28 Votes
,6.73 Score
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Proper etiquette on saying NO 7/3/2014
There are alot of members who get tons of e-mails, flirts
and friend requests (especially women) on Swapfinder.com, so much
that many of them just delete/ignore the sender. The proper
way to respond would be to just say "No thanks I am not
interested" copy this response to the cursor and
paste it when appropriate. If the sender keeps on sending
either block or report that person. When you do not respond
to ...
6 Comments, 67 Views,
6 Votes
,3.65 Score
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No Reply Is a Message Also! 6/27/2014
That's what the blogger wrote on my blog awhile back:
"No reply is also a reply." I wonder about that
really? I mean, I know it could be, but I also have found that
days later after I have made an inquiry with someone by sending
them an introductory email, they respond and not always
in a negative fashion.
"I've just been so inundated by emails."
one sweet lady wrote. Another said she ...
5 Comments, 40 Views,
4 Votes
,4.80 Score
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Why is it so hard to reply 6/15/2014
Why do people, women, never reply to messages even if just
to say "sorry no thanks". Surely it cannot that
hard to do.
10 Comments, 123 Views,
18 Votes
,3.40 Score
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I listen to NO 6/14/2014
I listen when someone tells me no. I respect their choice,
and will ask, if it is appropriate, what led to their decision.
I prefer conversation to conflict, and think that feedback
allows me to make changes if needed. However, that doesn't
mean I won't ever ask again! There is a place for persistence,
and I have even been called stubborn (really). I had a work place encounter that ...
0 Comments, 31 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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How to walk away gracefully? 5/14/2014
So, Im just wondering what you all thought the best way to
bow out of a set up 'meeting' with another member
is. For instance, I sent a lady a message, things went well,
decided to meet, and I had second thoughts so I sent a respectful
reply saying id changed my mind. Then i got BLOWN up. Didnt
think that'd happen but hey, maybe its just a one in
a hundred kinda thing...
4 Comments, 105 Views,
5 Votes
,4.77 Score
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The power of saying NO / YES / MAYBE - and the courage it takes... 4/26/2014
Ok, so you are not interested. How about just say: "Thanks
- but no thanks". Believe me, it is more elegant to
say No Thanks, than to disappear after countless exchanges,
or a lame excuse, like "the ate my _ _ _ _ _".
We are all adults here (ok, that's a long shot). The
fact is that there's power in saying no. Where negativity
is an ongoing attitude, No is a moment of clear choice. It
announces, ...
5 Comments, 78 Views,
12 Votes
,1.92 Score
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When you say no to a couple 4/15/2014
Why is it that when you tell a couple that is trying to get
you to come in and have sex with the female in the duo "no",
they just can't accept that and feel the need to offer
you reasons why it would be a good thing?
I personally feel that when you marry someone, its not to
share them, at least not sexually and if I express that to
you, that should be your signal to back off... Respect ...
3 Comments, 59 Views,
10 Votes
,4.18 Score
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Consent is Sexy! 4/8/2014
Consent is sexy! People should feel free to do or not do anything
in bed/the shower/while tied up/in public/etc. Besides,
how awesome is it when you get to hear them tell you "Yeah,
I want it!"
2 Comments, 22 Views,
5 Votes
,5.10 Score
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women 4/2/2014
Women on this site are such ass wipes if u dou wanna take to
a guy wen he sends a message tel them that don't not send
a message and then I keep replieyin thinkin u didn't
get my massage and then al of a sudden am a freak yr such ass
hole
18 Comments, 167 Views,
18 Votes
,0.53 Score
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be nice 2/16/2014
give some kind of response, let them know u got message, or
they might keep mailing
10 Comments, 62 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Everyone On Swapfinder.com has been really, really polite to me 2/3/2014
People have either said no thanks and said why, or they've
said, later and then contacted me later to get together.
I love this site, it's a great place to meet people.
I've tried some other sites and didn't have any
luck whatsoever.
6 Comments, 58 Views,
9 Votes
,4.28 Score
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It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them 1/23/2014
Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.
We've had a hard time with three or four single guys
- our add clearly states no single men but they continue
to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth
time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut,
a and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile
soon disappeared from Swapfinder.com.
Since then I ...
4 Comments, 66 Views,
11 Votes
,4.10 Score
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It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them 1/23/2014
Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.
We've had a hard time with three or four single guys
- our add clearly states no single men but they continue
to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth
time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut,
a and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile
soon disappeared from Swapfinder.com.
Since then I ...
3 Comments, 41 Views,
9 Votes
,4.92 Score
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How many 'No Thanks' can you take? 1/20/2014
Browsing down the categories to see where I should post
this and the SAYING 'NO THANKS' heading waved
and whistled at me..... Been married 35 years and it is a very strong marriage with
some severe tests along the way; great highs, painful lows
and buckets of tears and laughter along the way. We are very close and are best friends and the only secret
I have from my wife is my registration on ...
4 Comments, 101 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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Saying no thanks 11/16/2013
How do i say no thanks without gurting someones feelings?
0 Comments, 1 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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Why don't people do this? 10/18/2013
When you try to im someone and they just ignore you it is really
frustrating. Could they just say, "thanks, I'm
not interested."? I guess the problem is if they accept
the im at all then if they try to say no the other person will
keep bothering them. What do you think? Is ignoring the
right thing to do, or should you at least respond with a "no
thank you"?
8 Comments, 79 Views,
10 Votes
,5.38 Score
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too much 10/16/2013
Its healthy to have breaks now and then too much sex can damage
your health greatly, and a break can sumtimes increase
the pleasure
0 Comments, 7 Views,
1 Votes
,1.10 Score
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confused i am 9/23/2013
so many times men complain they do not get a reply from women
either by email or on the IM chat.
well explain this.... as i have just been lectured by an
18yr old boy that i was rude for accepting his chat request
and explaining my preferences to him, several times
he was then abusive and told me i was wasting his time by accepting
the chat
so we get criticized when we ...
10 Comments, 141 Views,
22 Votes
,5.41 Score
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Constructive 9/18/2013
Do you give constructive criticism when saying no?
1 Comments, 51 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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how to say it and not be rude 8/6/2013
there seems to be a culture that says saying no is insulting,
i have to disagree, asserting your right to make the choice
you want without fear of peer pressure is fundamental part
of life. admittedly i dont get to say no much on here!
0 Comments, 29 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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If there is just no attraction... 7/21/2013
One of the tougher reasons to just say, especially if a woman
on this site is showing interest and there is just no attraction
towards her, but in the few cases, I have tried to be honest
instead of just leaving it go. Thoughts?
4 Comments, 83 Views,
7 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Safe Sex 7/9/2013
Play Safe!!!!
2 Comments, 27 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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¿Qué no harías? 7/7/2013
¿Qué no te gustaría hacer?
0 Comments, 7 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Why are We Women so Dificult? 4/29/2013
We girls don't know how good we have it. We certainly
don't appreciate all the men making an effort to try
to talk to us. Even when the men are nice to us we still treat
them like shit, that's not fair at all, its completely
wrong, and I agree with the men that we don't deserve
to be praised like we are on this site. Most of the guys on
here aren't half bad, Take it Coming from a Female.
SO THIS ...
8 Comments, 121 Views,
17 Votes
,5.67 Score
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ok 3/27/2013
It hurts a little but its polite and averyone should have
their say
0 Comments, 42 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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fitness 3/27/2013
lets try and look after our bodies. at least lets try. its
always sexy to our partners
2 Comments, 25 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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I have a difficult time saying "no thanks" 3/14/2013
In general, women that I meet via Swapfinder.com fall into three main
categories: "Yes!", "Not great, but
she'll do" and "No $%#@ way!!".
You can call me shallow. You can call me a sex fiend or a predator. I don't think so - just an ordinary guy looking for some
fun.
The twist is that I'm a gentleman. I don't abuse the women that I meet. I treat them well - with respect and try to keep ...
3 Comments, 93 Views,
10 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Implied "No Thanks" 2/16/2013
I can accept a "no thank you". Its clear, and
easily understood.
What ALOT of us men get unfortunately, are NO responses.
If the man actually took time to write a paragraph that didnt
include WANNA FUCK, or COME FUCK NOW, then shouldnt you return the common courtesy
of a response?
NO response is just rude. If you had time to read it, you have
time to type a response.
4 Comments, 95 Views,
11 Votes
,5.04 Score
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confused 2/14/2013
i am not into sex chat and stuff at all, but i did chat a lot
with a girl from this site...for about a couple of months...she
kept postponing to meet me due to some family emergencies..but
loved talking to me...now she has taken some time out due
to some family crisis and asked me to wait. is it working
for me or not?
2 Comments, 79 Views,
5 Votes
,2.82 Score
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rejection 2/12/2013
girsl probably reject a lot here.. i mena seriously they
must get like 100 messages a day and they get to pick who they
wanna fuckk.... isnt it tru ladies....
1 Comments, 45 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Question, Would You Rather Be Told No Up Front 2/5/2013
We have a couple we like and have been talking to on a regular
basis for nearly two years. Both are extremely hot and both
tell us that they want to take their first plunge with us,
which I believe, but Danny is skeptical.
I say they're afraid to take the plunge, that it is erotica
for them to talk to us, share pictures with us, talk of swapping;
of their fantasies.
However, ...
8 Comments, 139 Views,
14 Votes
,4.10 Score
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Isnt Easy 12/24/2012
you email you chat you share picks and you decide that you
would like to me... You make the plans and you meet and on the surface all is cool...but
under the conversation and laughter that lil spark required
to get naked isnt what it should be.....you know it will
never happen
been there done that...it just isnt easy since the underlying
reason for meeting was to get naked.....I would ...
3 Comments, 83 Views,
8 Votes
,4.64 Score
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why so hard 12/21/2012
Why is it so hard for someone to just say "no thanks"
It seems to me that most people in general like to avoid confrontation
and would just rather ignore a person then to respond.
6 Comments, 76 Views,
14 Votes
,2.98 Score
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How do you politely say NO? 12/19/2012
Just because I'm a guy it's assumed I want to sleep
with every woman I see. How do you let someone down gently?
I mean sometimes it's not about straight up attraction
or whatever, it can be about other stuff that's going
on.
I don't want to hurt feelings, but then again I don't
want to go home hating myself either...
Advice?
4 Comments, 55 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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Nothing said. 12/19/2012
We met with a couple from Swapfinder.com and had a nice dinner and good
conversation. During the course of the evening, however
I think they realized that neither of us were sexually attracted
each other. We ended the night in a pleasant manner and departed.
We see each other on occasion at a local club and speak and
go our separate way with nothing ever said about swinging
or swapping. So sometime you ...
3 Comments, 59 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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Does it ever bother you? 12/10/2012
When a girl acts like she wants it, then says no...
1 Comments, 32 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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A good friend wanting more... 12/10/2012
I have a great friend who has decided she wants more out of
a relationship lately. I have always known her as my little
sister but having trouble telling her no. Advice?
1 Comments, 44 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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Manners.... 11/25/2012
Why do some people not takes a minute to say no thanks if they
arent interested. It's only polite...
8 Comments, 62 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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Respect 11/23/2012
Why do some not understand that a simple no means just that...no?
Please people respect is essential if you respect others
you will simply get much further in the lifestyle as well
as in life.
1 Comments, 8 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Breaking one of our rules. 11/8/2012
We met a couple here on Swapfinder.com and conversed several times on
line. After about two weeks, we agreed to meet at a local
hotel bar, with the intent to get a room if everything worked
out. We got there first and watched them walk in, they were
a very attractive couple. They came over and introduced
themselves and we hit it off very well. We were thinking
this is going to be great until they informed ...
2 Comments, 190 Views,
7 Votes
,4.57 Score
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No Thank You it stings only for a min 10/29/2012
We once had to have the most awkward of "No -Way back
in the beginning, our first encounter actually..before
the internet..so you spent time on the phone getting info
and mental pictures from their descriptions. After a number
of conversations we all agreed to drive half the distance
to the other and meet for coffee.
They had got there first and looking for the car we drove
and as we ...
0 Comments, 48 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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mm 10/27/2012
It Be Times When Some One ASk You If You Want This And That
, but it want hurt you to tell them no thanks at times
0 Comments, 10 Views,
0 Votes
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Well 10/19/2012
The only time I say no thanks is when they have a little dick.
0 Comments, 17 Views,
4 Votes
,1.69 Score
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seriously people? 9/12/2012
I completely understand that most guys my age are a complete
pain in the ass and would probably make horrible swing partners
but I would really love the common courtesy of a simple thanks
but I/we are not interested.
2 Comments, 54 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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at least you replied. 8/24/2012
If I see someone has viewed me, or has flirted with me, I check
for them on the IM. If I do happen to find them there, I like
to shoot them a message asking if they actually did. Most
times they don't even respond, which is much worse
than someone actually taking the time to tell me that they
did, but aren't interested or that they accidentally
clicked on my profile.
It means a lot for ...
6 Comments, 112 Views,
12 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Why? 8/13/2012
I have come to notice that most people on this site are either
to full of them selves to be polite or just don't care.
Personally, being ignored is a personal pet peeve and is
the quickest way to piss me off. When you get a email or IM
from me and take the time to look at my profile even if you
are not interest you could do me the courtesy of saying sorry
not interested vs just deleting ...
4 Comments, 66 Views,
11 Votes
,0.92 Score
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Why are folks afraid to say "not interested", "thanks anyway", etc... 8/11/2012
Having been on here a while now, I have met some cool folks
and exchanged emails here and off the site. What I just don't
get though is the lack of response from members...
I've read and talked with others about how the sites
full of fakes, nobody is real, etc...
Is that the reason for lack of response? Or is it lack of decency
or some feeling of superiority? Something else?? ...
2 Comments, 65 Views,
9 Votes
,3.21 Score
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No thanks is ok but at least answer 7/6/2012
So you send a message and wait and wait..is the person not
interested? Have they read your message? People should
at least say no thanks..my opinion
11 Comments, 102 Views,
11 Votes
,2.98 Score
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One Should Accept No 6/27/2012
I am into swinging life style for last 8 years and over the
years I have met many Couples and women.My experiences
told me that No is a wonderful thing and one should accept
it very gracefully. Not every one I met went forward to have
sex. Many occasions we met and chemistry didn't worked
out so we had our coffee or drink and left.Not many could
take it gracefully and they bitch about you but few ...
0 Comments, 34 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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DIFFICULT TO AVOID 5/30/2012
I MYSELF FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SAY THIS WHEN SOMEONE INTIMATES
ME
1 Comments, 45 Views,
5 Votes
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being nice 5/26/2012
saying no can be harder than saying yes? right? sometimes
it is just easier to go with the flow and just sleep with a
partner because easier than to say i dont like y64, that's
life, you got to be strong.
0 Comments, 23 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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When Did Common Courtesy Go Out the Window? 5/24/2012
I am truly amazed at the rude behavior being exhibited on
Swapfinder.com these days. It hasn't always been this way. Ten
years ago, people were much more courteous and kind. If
you were not their type, they would politely say so.
Today, someone will message me or I them and once they realize
I'm married or not "perfect", they simply
disconnect without so much as a "sorry, your not my
type" or ...
6 Comments, 102 Views,
7 Votes
,3.55 Score
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How do you do it ? 5/7/2012
How do you say "no thanks" to someone without
coming across rude?
2 Comments, 55 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Crazy 5/6/2012
The crazy ex who cant get enough of you
0 Comments, 25 Views,
0 Votes
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drugs are bad 5/3/2012
sometimes when I date a girl, she comes up with this stupid
idea to do drugs, weed or white powder. It's really annoying, as if drugs enhance your stamina
or improve your mindset
you just have to say no thanks, bang her and move on...
0 Comments, 33 Views,
7 Votes
,1.00 Score
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We think No means No 4/22/2012
If someone is hesitant in any way shape or form then respect
of their wish is imperative.
2 Comments, 56 Views,
8 Votes
,2.09 Score
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Courtesy is very easy to offer 3/20/2012
We can't account for the behavior of other people but
we can account for our own behavior. Being on an adult sight
doesn't give anyone a license to be a jerk.
There are lots of folks here without photos or any identifying
information which I understand completely but the shame
is that this level of anonymity often leads to very bad behavior...in
other words a lack of general human ...
6 Comments, 53 Views,
8 Votes
,4.17 Score
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Let's try it 3/11/2012
Small cub Friend alway say no ? He saw he wanted only he he had a big dick but he was all total
safe -sez bottom. Good sex ass and friend for me.I says being
a Total Top yes!
Small cub, finding top guys to bend his little ass oversize-ones
with a thanks.
1 Comments, 19 Views,
0 Votes
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Hard To Do 3/10/2012
It is difficult to say no thanks. A friend wanted to do the
nasty, but I really was not interested. I flirted with her
before, but never thought she was interested. She made
her feelings known and I had to say no. That's unusual
for a HO like me, but ....
0 Comments, 1 Views,
0 Votes
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What is so hard about saying no thanks/what is so hard about accepting no thanks? 2/8/2012
For the ladies
If a guy consistently emails and emails and emails, or tries
to hard in any way, with no established relationship its
easy, Im just not interested, but thank you, its very flattering.
If a guy shows up on a date and he's not your type, it is
uncomfortable, but the fake cell phone call about your
//family member having a fever is way worse
than just saying "I just don't ...
4 Comments, 66 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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What's the problem? 2/1/2012
I don't believe a lot of people understand
what the two words 'no thanks' means. How many
times does a person need to say it? ...
6 Comments, 96 Views,
23 Votes
,3.60 Score
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Offended 1/29/2012
WHY do single men, get offended when a couple tells you NO,
even when its posted ALL OVER OUR Fing PAGE?
Morons.
2 Comments, 87 Views,
10 Votes
,2.59 Score
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No Thank you to Smokers 1/20/2012
I say over and over No thankyou .why cant a person understand
No thankyou Im alergic to tobbacco. No matter how you try
cover it up how sexy you think you are or how youll quit after
No thankyou .I like to breathe
5 Comments, 70 Views,
11 Votes
,3.92 Score
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I just cant 12/22/2011
Have you ever had that one guy that no matter how much you
tell yourself no and that you can do better still gets to
you some how? Well I have a guy like that. Ever since the first
time we hooked up I just cant say no. He can go without talking
to me for a month but when he calls me or texts me to hook up
I fight a little or make myself unavailable, but the sex
is so hot that I just give in ...
6 Comments, 133 Views,
6 Votes
,3.65 Score
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Distance Rejection 12/19/2011
I reject people who live more than 100 miles away and they
get very upset typically. I dont understand why so many
long distance people contact me and why they get huffy when
I say no. Just happened todat with somone over 2000 miles
away, and NO photo to send!
6 Comments, 98 Views,
8 Votes
,3.94 Score
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Please dont be a dick 12/9/2011
My profile plainly states im looking for a specific thing
so please dont be a dick when you contact me and show what
you dont have and im not interested. I know that makes me
sound like a bitch i just know what i want and if you dont have
it dont pretend you do in my opion your actualy the douch
for wasting our time.
4 Comments, 225 Views,
18 Votes
,3.94 Score
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I'm just not Interested 12/7/2011
I get a number of emails, some i find very interesting and
others i don't...I have no problem with respectfully
declineing anyone if i don't feel there is a honest
attraction....But i have noticed that i get alot of rude
and tasteless emails as a reply, so my question is should
i just ignore those that i'm not interested in or do
i continue being repectful and letting them know that i'm
not ...
6 Comments, 134 Views,
11 Votes
,2.98 Score
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always be both polite and firm 12/2/2011
I have found that when I am not interested in someone that
being honest is best, you should try to be polite but firm,
that way it spares hard feelings and embarasment for them.
the honesty should be appreciated.their feelings may
be a little hurt, but they will respect you for being honest.
0 Comments, 11 Views,
1 Votes
,3.70 Score
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I always say NO when... 11/11/2011
I get a message that is completely idiotic. I will not even
give anybody a second if they message me and the first thing
they say is "let me suck you". I like to talk to
people and see who they are, what they are about!
4 Comments, 98 Views,
11 Votes
,6.35 Score
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Drinking 10/26/2011
Do you find it hard to just tell people that you don't
drink? Every time I do, people look at me funny...
0 Comments, 22 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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Rejected because I wear condoms 10/25/2011
I recently met an attractive woman on this site. We talked
for a little bit, then talked about meeting up. She asked
me if I was fine with having sex without using condoms. At
first I thought it was a joke, but she was very serious. I
politely declined. Everyone be smart and be safe theres
a lot of nasty things out there that can alter your life forever.
2 Comments, 67 Views,
3 Votes
,4.41 Score
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Saying no is ok 10/20/2011
Too often there is no response to an email or IM. And I understand
that people are very rude. Remember that it is the choice
of the person to say yes or no and calling them names because
there is a negative response to your email is not the answer.
0 Comments, 10 Views,
0 Votes
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Be courtious !! 10/14/2011
Too often no one answers an inquiry and that leaves a large
void. It doesnt take a lot of time to simply say, thank you
for asking but no thank you. It is just a nice courtesy.
3 Comments, 55 Views,
5 Votes
,1.84 Score
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Where are the manners? 9/29/2011
I get it...not everyone is gonna be compatible and there
is some amount of pure physical attraction that needs to
go on for a connection to happen. BUT if there isn't,
why can't people just say "thanks, nice meeting
you, but i'm not interested".
Dunno, seems pretty simple and much nicer than ending the
conversation, never to hear from them again - message is
the same, but just a more ...
5 Comments, 93 Views,
7 Votes
,4.31 Score
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Thanks but no thanks 9/22/2011
Just keep right on walking Just keep right on walking
Dont dilly-dally, come right home I dont see why I must go home When in the streets the niceties Come pouring out and over me Its three oclock and here they come So many that my eyes are numb Familiar faces each and all But I've been ordered not to stall Thanks but no thanks, anywa I know that youre all OK, but My orders come from ...
0 Comments, 15 Views,
0 Votes
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How 9/10/2011
What would be the easiest way to say No Thanks. Always wonder
what the other person may feel.
0 Comments, 10 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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no means no 8/30/2011
i'm 22..am i old fashioned to think that everyone should
understand that NO MEANS NO?
2 Comments, 110 Views,
20 Votes
,4.53 Score
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no means no 8/16/2011
why cant some people just understand no means no, and respect
the other person view.
0 Comments, 29 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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No means no 8/4/2011
When you want something and the other person doesn't
feel the same. Stop if they don't want nothing to do
with it. Or you are a duece bag and need help.
0 Comments, 5 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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The right thing 7/16/2011
So man games...if your not interested, a simply "no
thanks" is the right and decent thing to do...
0 Comments, 66 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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BBW 7/13/2011
I have recently met a few ladies who have seem to have outgrown
their profile pics, and it made me feel a little................
awkward! I have no problem with women with a little weight
on them, but when they show up waaayyy bigger than you expect,
then it's a problem for me. Anyone agree?
2 Comments, 72 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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Best way to meet a girl on here 6/19/2011
I have met women in the past for dates and right away I know
I am not interested. I would hate to have a girl come to my
house for the first time and not want to have sex with her
from this site. I would feel guilty and give it to her anyway.
What is the best way to figure out if this girl is worthy?
Do you meet them somewhere real quick in public and make
sure the sexual connection is there??
9 Comments, 169 Views,
15 Votes
,2.82 Score
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How many have sad "NO THANKS" 6/17/2011
Does it knock you confidence when a woman or man says "NO"
to sex?
3 Comments, 79 Views,
3 Votes
,2.94 Score
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no thanks 6/17/2011
i dont know why, but saying no thanks is hard for me. should
be the easiest thing. when i want to say no, i just ignore
the comment or question that was thrown at me. it shouldnt
have to be that way, but thats just the way it is. im sure not
all people are like this, but i am, and im sure im not alone
0 Comments, 2 Views,
0 Votes
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How to Say No in the Bedroom 6/2/2011
How To Say No To...
...the nice guy-nice, but not your type-who asks you on
a date:
1 "I'm sorry, I can't." If you're
feeling weak, you can add, "I'm seeing someone."
If you have no spine whatsoever, you can start with "I'm
very flattered, but..."
...your partner, who's suggesting a far-out sexual
act:
2 Look appalled and shriek, "What is wrong with ...
0 Comments, 52 Views,
6 Votes
,4.22 Score
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Saying No Thanks 5/31/2011
Why do a lot of men get upset and become very rude when you
decline their offer. Just because a woman is on here does
not mean she is desperate, and one who jumps in bed with every
offer on here.
21 Comments, 233 Views,
29 Votes
,5.55 Score
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How to say "No" 5/31/2011
Which do you think is better beating around the bush or like
removing ripping off a bandaide
0 Comments, 26 Views,
1 Votes
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Almost scammed! 5/18/2011
I must start with how Swapfinder.com is a Terrific site and how quick
and helpful they were on acting with my problem.
It started with a member leaving a wink I checked out his
page and Who-ow he was cute. I left a wink and hot listed him now we have all done that Yes!
This is were it begins the emails back and forth nothing
vulgar or offensive, just innocent emails.
After a few ...
1 Comments, 245 Views,
8 Votes
,5.10 Score
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If she says no, respect it! 5/8/2011
dont ever get mad because she said no, you dont know what
her day was, what her life has been lately. just be respectful
and say "ok" be a gentlemen, not a d-bag.
4 Comments, 60 Views,
13 Votes
,6.00 Score
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no 5/6/2011
Do anyone understand no n e more?
5 Comments, 64 Views,
6 Votes
,4.22 Score
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Why does she get mad 4/12/2011
Eveytime i tell he ri don't want to have sex she gets
upset
5 Comments, 84 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Condom use 4/8/2011
i have been rejected a couple of times because i want to wear
condoms all the time...why do women turn me away because
i am concerned about my health, not to mention i might have
no idea if they are 100% clean or not?
6 Comments, 197 Views,
13 Votes
,4.32 Score
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Sometimes you just have to say "NO" 4/3/2011
If there is just no attraction, yeah sometimes you just
have to take one for your own team, and say thank you, but
I don't want another. But if she is cross-eyed, dresses
like she was straight out of the forties, has a hunch back
and is overweight, then pay for the dinner, walk her to her
car and just apologize you're just not turned on by
her. Don't cave because she offers you oral sex, and
when ...
2 Comments, 46 Views,
5 Votes
,2.16 Score
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Best way 3/29/2011
What is your preferred way to tell someone you are not interested?
Does it get any easier over time? Some people make it simple
by being assholes but it's tough when nice people have
to be told no.
5 Comments, 101 Views,
10 Votes
,2.99 Score
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What do you do? 3/9/2011
Say you have been chatting and finally meet, the pics she
sent are awesome and you are really looking forward to it.
When she shows, you find out the pics are old and she doesn't
look anything like that now....how do you say thanks, but,
NO THANKS!
8 Comments, 71 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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The Joys of Artfull Rejection....... 2/18/2011
1.) Man: "Haven't we met before?" Woman:
"Yes, I'm the receptionist at the V.D. Clinic."
2.) In the department of "nice turn downs" there's
this one: I'll have to think about that, thinking makes
me tired, when I'm tired I want to sleep, not make love,
so let's not, okay?
3.) Man: "So, wanna go back to my place?" Woman:
"Well, I don't know. Will two people fit under
a rock?" ...
2 Comments, 81 Views,
8 Votes
,5.33 Score
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it is vital 2/15/2011
have to be able to say no thanks, but so hard to hear when someone
is so good...
1 Comments, 15 Views,
1 Votes
,3.70 Score
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HOW DO YOU SAY IT WITHOUT BEING RUDE? 2/14/2011
i was wondering how you could say this without sounding
rude or mean, help
5 Comments, 122 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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NO NO NO 2/13/2011
What does it realy take before someone gets the hint and
understands that no means NO.
2 Comments, 45 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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blah 2/1/2011
blah....................................................................................................................................................................................................................hahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahha...................................blah
blah ...
5 Comments, 66 Views,
1 Votes
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Really dont know how to describe this 1/22/2011
but I really have a sex secret. Its like so bad thar I could
loose my job and what is left of my relationship if u want
to call it that.
I guess there is only one way of saying this. I been having
sex with multiple men at the same time many times over. I
love it and the more men there r, the more I want them fuck
me and let thier friends know that I am a sex starved pussy
who can take ...
5 Comments, 333 Views,
17 Votes
,2.98 Score
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gay guys 1/8/2011
im not interested in them. at this site they keep iming me
asking me to show my ass or cock off.
pretty sick of telling them no. i need to go to a site that
actually has chicks there
4 Comments, 60 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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turning down a friend from becoming more. 1/1/2011
A few years back while going to college in fresno california
i met a very pretty girl there while in political science
class. we started chatting and as break time came along
we went to the breakroom to get something to eat, while there
we chatted and got to know one another a little bettter.
she had been adopted when she was a and told me about
her family background and her ambitions and goals ...
2 Comments, 165 Views,
8 Votes
,1.62 Score
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Bill and Lynn 12/20/2010
For months Bill had been Lynn`s devoted admirer. At long
last he had collected sufficient courage to ask her the
momentousquestion."There are quite a lot of advantages
to being a bachelor, " Bill began, "but there
comes a time when one longs for the companionship of another
being, a being who will regard one as perfect, as an idol;
whom one can treat as one`s absolute own; who will be kind
and ...
0 Comments, 68 Views,
4 Votes
,4.80 Score
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The Magic Pussy 12/1/2010
Well I'm not sure if I should let you in a on little secret.
What's so special about my horny wife that I just have
to tell every one who can read the printed word ? Fair enough
keep reading and see for yourself.I've changed the
names of all involved. So if you shout out her name in the
heat of well.....now you know.
My wife Carrie is absolutly drop dead ...
5 Comments, 335 Views,
11 Votes
,1.67 Score
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a gentle way 11/25/2010
One of the most frustrating things on dating sites like
this is the limbo that members put you in by not replying.
You probably sent a letter, maybe even a follow-up or two.
No answer + no reply = NO COURTESY. No one likes to wonder
and guess what's going on, so just send a simple reply.
You don't have to write a lengthy letter of explanation,
just a few words. Keep in mind we are all SUPPOSEDLY ...
13 Comments, 288 Views,
29 Votes
,6.85 Score
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Saying no to Submissive men 11/6/2010
I'm having to say no thanks to guys that are looking
to be submissive. I say that Two bottoms don't make
a top. Im a feminine submissive bottom bitch and Im woman
enough for a strong masculine man. I dont need someone else
waring panties, waving their ass, and being a subby bitch.
I even put hat on my profile, that I am only a submissive looking
for a dom.
Anyone else having ...
1 Comments, 92 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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I HAD TO SAY NO THANKS IN PERSON THIS WEEK! 11/5/2010
So, I sgree to meet this guy form here. The last couple of
meetings before him were actually pretty good. Not bad
at all. One was just a little TOO horny, but still not bad.
One was perfect. Another was good too.
But this one guy from this week..... omg. He forgot to tell me he was missing half his front teeth.
Among other things. I was completely...turned...off...and
felt that he was ...
3 Comments, 156 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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So what guys have had to say "no thanks"? 11/1/2010
You always see talk about girls being the ones who have issues
with telling guys no, but what guys have had to do the same?
0 Comments, 39 Views,
3 Votes
,4.41 Score
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Sex and Marriage ! 10/26/2010
Sex is the price women have to pay for marriage. Marriage
is the price men have to pay for marriage. ...
2 Comments, 59 Views,
21 Votes
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When you say no...and they persist...sometimes you have to get ugly 10/24/2010
Sometimes, I will get replies from guys that read my profile,
notice that they are NOT what I am lookiung for, yet still
contact me. I think thats rude and a waiset of time. They
also get "beggy" and presistant. Sometimes,
I have to get ugly.
What do you do in situations like that?
5 Comments, 72 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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how to 10/12/2010
whats the best way to say no?
0 Comments, 16 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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no 9/27/2010
I just wanted to express that I am not, let me repete, I AM
NOT, intersted in other men, there will be no dick sucking
or the like with another man. I have posted that ts are ok,
but the passable ones, the ones that have all the necessary
parts to make them look like a woman. A fat man, that cross
dresses, that has man boobs, AKA no brest implants, can
not say he has size DD tits, they are still ...
1 Comments, 53 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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wots the easiest way 9/22/2010
without sayin the obvious 2 a guy wots the easiest way ov
sayin thanks but no thanks without hurtin any1s feelings
lol x
4 Comments, 85 Views,
10 Votes
,3.19 Score
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Sending a reply message 9/6/2010
If a person sends you an email try to be nice enough to reply
back even if you are not interested. Lots on here use points
to send emails and are not sure if the email was even received.
So be nice enough to send a reply.
8 Comments, 127 Views,
13 Votes
,5.66 Score
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Question for the guys 9/5/2010
So I'm asking. Would it bother you guys if you were single,
to sleep with a girl who was attatched?
2 Comments, 52 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Old photos 9/3/2010
What do you do when you chat to someone...get all friendly...then
make the step and the person has posted a 10 year old photo?
You cant say my how youve grown..
4 Comments, 121 Views,
9 Votes
,3.64 Score
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ahhhh no........ 9/3/2010
What is the best way to get away from someone you absolutely
have ZERO interest in yet they think you are the stuff ? I have tried being nice. We are not "friends"
she is just one in the crowd.
4 Comments, 60 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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on average... 8/25/2010
Curious ... I would like some advice on how to say "no
thanks"; i.e. let someone down, especially upon
meeting in person...in a nice way. I'm usually blunt
and just say, 'I don't feel like there is a connection'
or 'something is missing'.
But the ladies usually want specifics, and I don't
want to be cruel to someone. I could use some good lines that
aren't fake, but would help with ...
2 Comments, 84 Views,
6 Votes
,3.08 Score
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this one is easy 8/2/2010
the simple way of doing it is just be as polite as you can and
just simply say no thanks. if they cant handle it its not
your problem and if they get pissy i say oh well its not the
first time someone has been mad at me and damn sure wont be
the last so they have a long line to stand in lol
5 Comments, 45 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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whymen call u a bitch 8/1/2010
Why is it that when a man sends u multiple messages trying
to get your attention, and when you ignor them they call
u afat bitch... I dont get it who was emailing who i the first
place.
17 Comments, 274 Views,
17 Votes
,4.26 Score
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??? 7/31/2010
If a women is uncomfortable watching you masturbate, do
you think:
(A) You need more time together ( She's a prude (C) She should of sat elsewhere on the bus
1 Comments, 35 Views,
9 Votes
,2.36 Score
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Walking the walk. 7/16/2010
Ok boys and girls this is just a quick little piece on "saying
no". We all know we have been in situations that put
us in a position of weakness or addiction, especially when
it comes to matters of lust and love. How we comprehend and
what actions we take regarding this weakness is what makes
the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic
one. Any time you feel the need to justify, ...
1 Comments, 62 Views,
7 Votes
,3.55 Score
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?? 7/4/2010
Iv been getting texts/calls from a girl who wants to meet
for sex only. Met her in a club and had some dinner a few days after.
Not sure if i should do it or not...
0 Comments, 20 Views,
0 Votes
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guys 7/1/2010
ok so i got on the im last night for the first time and all the
guys started trying to talk to me sorry guys its me and my
bf and we r only looking for girls thanks for the interest
but not interested in guys i already have a man and that is
my bf and we dont wnt a three way with a dude. SORRY!!!
0 Comments, 57 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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no thanks 6/30/2010
how hard is it for you to date, the same person, for a time,
and every time sex come up, its always no thanks. when do
you say good bye.
2 Comments, 59 Views,
2 Votes
,1.04 Score
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Whatever! 6/6/2010
I don't believe a lot of people understand
what the two words no thanks means. How many times does a
person need to say it? ...
16 Comments, 160 Views,
33 Votes
,5.99 Score
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Watch it ! 5/21/2010
Your life can be changed in a matter of seconds by someone
who doesn't even know you yet. ...
3 Comments, 117 Views,
12 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Credentials! 5/21/2010
Credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human
being....
2 Comments, 37 Views,
12 Votes
,1.92 Score
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How Many Times Does A Lady Have to Politely Say No? 5/14/2010
Before she can't just flat out be rude? Have you ever
been there?
My profile(check it out) is written to weed out the "undesireables."
Sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't. There
always has to be one that thinks if he can just get you to say
yes to meeting him he can sweet talk you into giving up some
of that sweet stuff. You know the one I'm talking about...
He writes & ...
8 Comments, 172 Views,
16 Votes
,4.74 Score
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Worry ! 5/12/2010
Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never
gonna happen anyway. ...
1 Comments, 31 Views,
10 Votes
,0.60 Score
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Why do people do that? 5/2/2010
I need a little perspective on why people will start chatting
and emailing you on here and you seem to get along well ...
then you agree to exchange pics and then "POOF"
once the woman gets your pic they disappear without a word.
I mean I can understand that they get the pic and see that
one is not their type ... but is it really all that hard to
just say that so there is closure? Why do people ...
8 Comments, 208 Views,
11 Votes
,3.54 Score
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Wondering ! 4/29/2010
Sometimes saying, "No thanks, " will have
you wondering later on if you were right, and sometimes
you'll find out later on from an event, that you made
a great decision in saying, "No thanks!" ...
1 Comments, 46 Views,
24 Votes
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Bi/Gay won't leave you alone? 4/11/2010
Wow I have this issue where I can't get bi/gay guys in
my area to stop messaging me about getting some secret head...anyone
else have these issues?
1 Comments, 71 Views,
3 Votes
,4.90 Score
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Why? 4/5/2010
So this one goes 2 ways. Why do single ladies rule out out
young guys on average and... Why why why why why do gays guys
think that straight guys want oral? lmao.
3 Comments, 55 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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Have fun but be careful 3/21/2010
Coming out of high school I had only had sex a couple of times
and at that time I really didn't care for it. How thangs
have changed. But the first time I considered having sex
with someone that wasn't my boyfriend was with a guy
we will call bob. The first time I saw him I got wet and I wanted
him so bad. I would lay in my bed at night and cum all over my
fingers thinking about him kissing ...
5 Comments, 362 Views,
20 Votes
,4.53 Score
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strippers 3/14/2010
male half
it's been years since i've been but the best way
i've found to get rid of strippers who want to table
dance for you is to have a line ready. mine have been, "sorry, you look too much like my wife."
and "sorry, i'm saving all my money for the massage
parlor afterwards".
any other good one liners? have some fun.
2 Comments, 113 Views,
8 Votes
,3.01 Score
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be nice!...or not 2/27/2010
a girl like you, but you are not attracted to her or the fact
that she dropped out of high school....so instead of telling
her that - you just say " I don't want a relationship
at this time". but she is relentless, wanting to hang
out as friends. to be blunt, she just isnt getting it. so,
maybe not wanting to hurt someones feelings isnt a safe
outlet...?
2 Comments, 53 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Is chivalry still out there? 2/27/2010
I would hope politeness is still alive and well in today's
swinging lifestyle..I mean...So many unanswered e-mails...just
makes ya wonder how some people are being brought up.? It's
not hard to reply to a nice email someone took the time to
write. At least this is our take on it. What do you think?
We dont respond to nasty emails...or one liners....But
a well thought out email goes a long way to ...
3 Comments, 80 Views,
8 Votes
,4.17 Score
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Easier for Women to Say No? 2/22/2010
Is it easier for a woman to say "No thanks" then
a man?
When meeting for the first coffee, I am not always interested
in following through. But I also feel like I can't say
no at that point. I have, and it wasn't well received
even though I did try to be gentle.
I am wondering if the male stereotype comes into play: men
don't say no to sex.
Women are propositioned more ...
3 Comments, 90 Views,
5 Votes
,4.77 Score
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no thank you 1/11/2010
Hey everyone it's ok to say no thank you. When you do
people should respect that.
3 Comments, 62 Views,
6 Votes
,4.50 Score
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when saying no thanks politely doesn't go over 1/8/2010
sometimes it seems like i am very careful to pick my wording
in my response, and i am still treated very rudely to someone
i didn't pursue in the first place. i try to say things
that won't hurt any feelings, stay respectful, and
still are firm that i am not interested. i am wondering what
everyone else does when this doesn't seem to do the
trick and now some rude person won't leave me alone.
2 Comments, 27 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Say 'no thanks' the right way 1/7/2010
Overview: It's a good practice to let job candidates
know when they haven't gotten the job. Use this sample
thanks-but-no-thanks letter to build goodwill with people
who may be a better match for future positions.
One of the least pleasant aspects of the hiring process
is conveying to candidates your decision to pass them over.
But if you've decided to eliminate someone from contention ...
5 Comments, 57 Views,
5 Votes
,1.84 Score
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I'm not sure how to say it but.... "No Thanks" 12/18/2009
Recently, I received an invitation to a 'party'
that included men and women having fun, as we do. The invitation
was amazing as it had me down as one of the one kinda-single
guys to be there.
My arousal peaked as well as my normal paranoias of being
discreet. I emailed back that I would be interested and
a day later received the location and address. It also included
the caveat that i ...
2 Comments, 102 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Is it better to ignore 12/18/2009
I was just wondering how many people out there, have expressed
intrest in someone, who wrote, only to be ignored by the
person.Isn't it more polite to kindly say your not
intrested, then to ignore the person and leave them hanging?
5 Comments, 119 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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Big Girls 12/10/2009
I'm looking for a kind way to walk away from big girls
on this site without hurting anyone's feelings. Can
someone please offer some advice.
18 Comments, 311 Views,
13 Votes
,3.48 Score
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being polite but firm 12/9/2009
Well having read a few of the articles - it seems we're
all more or less on the same frequency as it were.
Ive had quite a few occasions in the past where despite what
my profile says - ie in a relationship and not looking to
play, a few folks have been rather insistent - Ive found
it an exercise in politeness but also firmness.
There do seem to be quite a few people for whom no ...
2 Comments, 73 Views,
6 Votes
,4.50 Score
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How do you tell a couple no thanks after meeting them? 12/5/2009
Weve not had to experience this yet because all the couples
we played with were great, but how do you tell a couple no
after meeting up with them and it's not what you want?
4 Comments, 90 Views,
8 Votes
,4.64 Score
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I know, we've all encountered someone who... 11/29/2009
... can't take a hint, a direct "no thanks",
or even sometimes a baseball bat over the head to understand
that you're not interested. Especially the ones that are standard members and can't
read profiles, but still can't grasp it when you describe
your situation/desires and keep pressing to meet you.
Someone needs to design hardware so you can send an electric
shock back to someone who ...
4 Comments, 122 Views,
3 Votes
,1.96 Score
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respect for the individual 11/4/2009
Lets prove some of these nay Sayers wrong and show that we
can be grown ups' and get together for real hook ups.Life's
too short for lead on's and game playing.Just be true
to others and leave the mind games away from this place.Know
one would want to be treated like that, what makes it okay
for you to do it to others.Just be yourself, life's
too short!!
1 Comments, 29 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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when just saying no isnt enough... 11/1/2009
Guy: I would go to the end of the world for you! Girl: Yea but would you stay there?
Man:is this seat empty?
Woman:yes and this one will be too if you sit down!
Man:your bodys like a temple
Woman:sorry no sevice today.
Him: your place or mine
You: both, you go to yours, and i will go to mine
Sleazy Guy o you come here often? ...
2 Comments, 45 Views,
9 Votes
,1.93 Score
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Taking a break 10/25/2009
It came suddenly I'm sure for my husband but one night,
I asked him how he would feel about suspending our Swapfinder.com account
temporarily. He asked why...my reply....I just want to
take a break. It seemed like so much pressure to have sex
with EVERYONE and that is NOT who I am or he is for that matter.
I wanted to slow down and get back to us and remember what
it was to feel passion instead of just ...
8 Comments, 262 Views,
13 Votes
,4.65 Score
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No Thanks 10/13/2009
How can another person say that they didnt c the sign when
a person is no interest n then u shouldnt have 2 hurt some
1 feeling 2 say No Thanks !That person already knows they
just dont want 2 accept the facts , no calls, no chat, no
time and they cant get the picture mmmmmmmmm They got just
leave me alone can they get that Live, Laugh, Love!
2 Comments, 61 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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Nancy Reagan said it 1st 10/12/2009
Yes she did!
1 Comments, 32 Views,
0 Votes
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i never say no 9/29/2009
no is not in my vocabulary especially when it comes to sex
i will always try it atleast once! it is ok to say no but i just
never do!
2 Comments, 78 Views,
5 Votes
,0.86 Score
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just say so 9/24/2009
I remember old saying that went something like this:treat
others the way you would want to be treated...Life's
too short for games---don't lead others on.It's
just not cool.A simple "no Thanks" should work
just fine...
1 Comments, 48 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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How saying " No Thanks"? 9/18/2009
Hello all,
Many ladies are trying to contact me here... In some I am interest and in other I am not. When you are not
interest in someone you can build a real realation, right?
or even be honest in your feeling? Is there a way to say No thanks smoothly without hearting
her?
thx
1 Comments, 38 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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Here's one way ! 8/25/2009
Just tell whoever that your seeing someone and you don't
want to cheat on them. ...
4 Comments, 78 Views,
31 Votes
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too what 8/10/2009
never say never to sex drugs always say no and then u will
be safe
2 Comments, 38 Views,
2 Votes
,3.12 Score
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passing 8/4/2009
whats the best line you used to reject someone
1 Comments, 72 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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What's worse? 7/22/2009
Being horny as hell and laying in bed next to a hot chick or
guy you can't fuck (for whatever reason) or being horny
as hell and laying in bed next to a hot chick/guy that won't
fuck you?
8 Comments, 70 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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Really No Thanks? 7/21/2009
Saying No is not taken lightly by some.Saying No Thanks
is a strong suggestion that the person really means the
opposite. Men are attracted to women who use the NO word and always
confuse the situation by thinking it means YES. For the life of me I cannot understand why? People are the same anywhere you go. They argue about everything
then say no. When the opportunity comes for them to say really ...
5 Comments, 98 Views,
5 Votes
,2.82 Score
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When to run away?? 6/29/2009
Recently I met up with a lady in Cambridge who seemed on the
surface to be a normal, relatively sexy woman. She had a
few more tattoos than I was expecting but they seemed tasteful.
She was in pretty good shape and it turned out she was a black
belt in karate. On leaving the bar where we met I asked is
she was ticklish and she said no and dont - I took this to mean
please tickle me now, but when ...
7 Comments, 170 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Fatal attraction ! 6/9/2009
Fatal attractions can come from just merely saying,
"No thanks!"
Have you ever known this to happen to anyone near to you?
...
3 Comments, 96 Views,
33 Votes
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Not saying no means no? 6/2/2009
How many of you just leave an email unanswered if you're
not interested?
How many of you actually reply to say "No thanks"?
18 Comments, 173 Views,
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Ok this has been on my mind... 5/3/2009
so i have a general guideline when it comes to guys, i prefer
guys between 18 and 26, but it seems that i get more emails
and IMs from guys who are over 26...how do i nicely let them
down?
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How do YOU handle this? 4/26/2009
Let's say you have made a connection here (or on another
site, whatever...) and you finally meet. You discover
that there is just not a good connection there, or no real
attraction... what do you say? How do you handle that situation
without hurting their feelings? This has happened to me
a couple times, and I never want to hurt someone's feelings,
but you also can't pretend there's a ...
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the lead on...... 4/17/2009
Were all adults here-hence the name 'Swapfinder.com'please
just be up front and honest-if your not interested just
come out and say it.......
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Here is a scenario: 4/13/2009
We, as a couple, choose to play together with women..not
necessarily other couples. We get propositioned all the
time from couples that want us to come play with them. As
inviting an offer as it is, we have more of an interest in
playing with the female counter part of the couple as opposed
to both of them. We do not full swap, as of yet, but most of
these couples want us to "equally" share the ...
4 Comments, 83 Views,
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why when we say 'no thank you'? 4/4/2009
Some guys say when they have been told No thank you, well
'your loss'
why is it my loss? if i don't think we match for whatever
reason, how can that then be my loss.
It makes me laugh cause I can only assume that they think
they are gods gift and that i should be grateful or something.
To me a loss is losing someone who dies not someone I am not
interested in having sex with. ...
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what is it.. 3/15/2009
with people who cant take no for an answer? why are there so many nuts out there that think just because
you slept with them a couple times you are meant to be together
forever?
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why not just accept the response no thanks 3/11/2009
wasn't sure whether to put this in the 'saying
'no thanks' or the rants & raves
So many times I get contacted by the same people who I have
said no thanks to as politely as I can.
But yet they still do it and some even then become abusive
about it.
One has even called me a 'saddo' today who 'needs
a life' because I didn't want to talk to the pictureless,
one line ...
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why why no pics? 3/7/2009
After being on this scene on and off for over 20 years we've
come to realise its a total absolute waste of time and breath
asking people to put SOME kind of pics in profile! Despite
us sayin they dont have to be facial or explicit, still
they dont! its especialy difficult if you're a standard member
and therefore cant access some profiles fully. so that
one little pic we CAN see makes ALL ...
7 Comments, 126 Views,
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Sore Losers... 1/27/2009
I had a guy email me with interest of talking and I politely
told him he had a great profile, seemed like a nice guy, but
I had recently started dating someone/am looking for a
girl to join us.
His reply got him blocked by Swapfinder.com...
What is the appropiate way to say "No thanks"...if
there is one on here?...
7 Comments, 251 Views,
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When a woman says no 1/20/2009
I'm sorry for all those guys who
don't understand the word... NO! When you meet a woman
and there's just no attraction and she tells you so.
Normally that means one thing leave her alone! Not continue
to harass and bother her. It's just creepy and weird
to have someone following your every move and having to
check up on you after you tell them that you want nothing
to do with ...
5 Comments, 95 Views,
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Why can men not take a hint 1/12/2009
I'm a straight man. Says right in my profile who I'm
lookin to meet. So why is it that gay or bi men still feel the
need to contact me and not take no for an answer? I'm
curious if women have the same issue with the men on this
site be they straight bi or otherwise?
2 Comments, 72 Views,
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omg... get the picture! 1/11/2009
so as i sit on my computer doing my own thing talking to the
random guys that have come across my screen and i wonder
if they even have looked at my profile. i have an issue with
age cos of how young i am and how i want to find somone closer
in age.. i dont understand why older men find it fun to keep
trying. listen when a person says no they mean it. just listen
and respect!
3 Comments, 109 Views,
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saying no thanks 1/10/2009
saying no thanks
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just no 1/7/2009
you know on this website i have so many guys trying to talk
to me and it get kinda of annoying when they get persistant
and to the point of scary when they end up sending you messages
and photos everyday...so please guys if the girl doesnt
reply its for a reason take the hint!
2 Comments, 82 Views,
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Be Polite and Respond 1/2/2009
One of the things that I've noticed here, and to be honest
on every other site is that people don't respond, even
to say, "No Thanks." Whatever happened to common
courtesy? It doesn't cost anything to simply say,
"Not Intrested, " and it will probably keep
you from getting repeat messages.
3 Comments, 91 Views,
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Why Waste Time? 12/29/2008
I've been a member of Swapfinder.com for 6 yrs now, my question is:
Why do the Gold members have to spend money for standards
to view their profiles? Then these "cheap-os"
have the nerve to "request" VIP be in Gold's
profile, to guarantee an reply. I must have spent $400 on helping standards and they reply at least twice, then vanish. Or most woman members claim they're interested(even
in your local ...
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Co-ed 12/23/2008
I have this colleague at work who's been flirting with
me. She doesn't know that I have a girlfriend. She keeps
bending forward showing off her cleavage to me. Once at
the pantry area, she groped me and told me that she found
me attractive. How do I say no without hurting her feelings
or embarassing her?
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big, big woman 12/1/2008
To them I always have to say No Thanks. Don't look hear.
Look elsewhere, not interested. I can't do that, nope,
and sorry.
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Sign of the times ! 11/21/2008
You try to enter your password on the microwave.
You haven't played solitaire with a real deck of cards
in a year.
You have a list of fifteen to reach your family
of three.
Your just bought a CD of all the records your college
roommate used to play that you most despised.
Every commercial on television has a web-site addy at the bottom of the screen. ...
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Divorce ! ! ! 11/11/2008
The word "divorce, " from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals up through
his ass, through his Levi's and plumb through his wallet
and on to freedom. ...
15 Comments, 193 Views,
58 Votes
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What to do... 10/28/2008
Question for both sexes...
What to do when the opposite sex wants to meet for a sexual
encounter but you are not into the physical for whatever
reason.
Things to consider?
Am I a jerk for not wanting too...
Your thoughts?
3 Comments, 90 Views,
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Just saying No thanks 10/8/2008
I have been invited to have an unmeaningful relationship
with a beautiful lady once a week. I actually was wanting
a little more than unmeaningful so I had to tell her no thanks.
She has hassled me about it and I finally had to ignore her.
3 Comments, 130 Views,
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swapping partner for a ! 10/6/2008
We recently had chat with 1 gut who was up to arrange a swap.
However, as the conversation panned out, it turned out
the person he was gonna bring was in fact gonna be a .
How could he expect us to agree to this exchange? His emotional
connection with this female was totally non-existant,
wheras me ands my partner have been together over 10 years.
Sometimes, the politeness of the answer should be ...
4 Comments, 161 Views,
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If Someone says "Thank you but I am not interested".. 9/26/2008
Or one of those others pleasant let you down easy one liners,
why do you feel the need to counter the statement with "Why?"
or some other pestering comment or rude comment?
Would these replies honestly make the person reconsider
the rejecting reply that they initially sent?
If you got one of those responses, would you take the reply
as a hit and then move on or if you like what ...
18 Comments, 256 Views,
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YOU SUSPECT A STD 8/31/2008
You meet someone online. You meet in person and like one
another. You decide to have sex. You're both naked.
Then you see it. A bump, blister, redness, or something
else that you think could be a std. But you may be wrong. It
might be nothing. The other person might not be aware of
it. How do you stop without hurting the other persons feelings?What
is the polite way to handle this situation?
2 Comments, 155 Views,
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how do i tell someone no thanks 8/18/2008
well it starts with a guy that has been trying to get with
me forever and im just not intersted in him im try to hint
it but how do i tell him no thanks without being mean
4 Comments, 88 Views,
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repeats 8/6/2008
how can you nicely say I DONT WANT YOU, after you ignore and
tewll them they are not your type
7 Comments, 130 Views,
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Not an easy thing 7/29/2008
Guess it depends on how warm/cold
a person you are to how difficult you find this.
We are very tactful and warm people
so find it quite difficult. We can make our minds up pretty
quick to whether or not we are interested. Will tell you
now we definately aint interested in people without pix
on their profile as it shows ...
1 Comments, 44 Views,
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kissing on first date 7/25/2008
MOst women will give a kiss the first date.Some even hand
the kat over.My thing is with all the variables, do ladies
chosse right off the bat who can hit it?Or the guy has to change
her mind overtime?
3 Comments, 73 Views,
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Is it wrong to just say no? 7/7/2008
Despite what Nancy Reagan may have started with that expression,
I don't mean drugs. I'm talking about oral sex.
To be frank, I've never really been one for the cunnilingus
or the blow jobs, to be honest. I've always found it
be at best, impersonal and at worst, dangerous. Stay with
me on this one.
I agree that oral is a valid point of foreplay (something
I have often enjoyed over ...
4 Comments, 76 Views,
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just say it 7/5/2008
after chatting with someone and you find that your really
not interested. Just say "no thanks" don't
just ignore the person, that is really cruel.
7 Comments, 48 Views,
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why is it so hard 7/5/2008
I have found that many people will just ignore you instead
of just saying I am not interested. Why? I wouldn't
do that to anyone, so, lets just have some common manners.
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It sucks when it happens to you 7/5/2008
Married? No thanks. No offense, but if you're not being
satisfied by your man, then leave him, but don't go
looking for some side fun. My first wife cheated on me, and
knowing what it feels like, no matter how hot she is, if she's
married, I'm the one that has to sleep with my conscience
at night. I know there are people who disagree with me, though.
Your thoughts?
1 Comments, 61 Views,
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is it too much to expect an actual rejection when getting rejected? 6/25/2008
Is it just me or do people who reject you via ignoring you
just piss you off.. at least tell me to go fuck off.. I recently
met up with a woman I met on here.. drove about an hour to meet
up with her.. brought a friend for her roomate.. shared
photos and talked on the phone for days.. could tell within
the first five minutes she didnt want me there.. she eventually
went to bed about an hour into ...
2 Comments, 85 Views,
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Lets be adults 5/28/2008
Most people ( men especially ) are too cowardly on this front
and will bumble around making until the other person gets
upset and annoyed.Be honest and upfront, we are all adults
on here and should be able to take the rejection by now ;O
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"No thanks" 5/26/2008
5/25/09 Most people appreciate when you're being
upfront with them. If it's "Sorry, I'm not
interested." "No thanks." It's
all the same, people on this site, and in general have been
around enough, that they should be able totake no as no,
and keep on going.
4 Comments, 72 Views,
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"I didn't want to hurt him" 5/22/2008
I don't understand why women blow off men because they
"don't want to hurt them". I've seen
this happen many times with friends (male and female),
and to myself as well. A guy will ask a girl out, she's
not interested but she doesn't want to reject him so
she says yes, even gives out her phone #, with no intention
of ever going out on a date with the guy. If you're not
interested, just say so! ...
2 Comments, 58 Views,
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Working in a bar 5/1/2008
Working in a bar is definately a great thing, i believe everybody
would agree. Free drinks, great girls around you and of
course the sex. Yet, it is not always a sexy girl that is trying
to get you. Then what do one do? Just gets drunk enough? Or
runs away? Saying no can be a challenge...it is not really
pleasant, you know. We all have been there- been said "No
thanks" in one way or another. More ...
3 Comments, 96 Views,
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Do men find it hard to say "no"? 5/1/2008
When my man is propositioned he says that he feels like he's
being really rude by saying "No" to girls. He
even thinks that he's being rude by saying "No
thanks" to strippers when we're in a lap dancing
club; you get some right wrongens stripping these days
and it seems they know that men find it hard to say 'no'
too; why else would they push themselves so hard onto punters?
I always see ...
6 Comments, 90 Views,
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No means no 4/21/2008
Well you just have to speak up ur mind. No means no. That simple.
The more you are indecisive about it the more you will regret
it.
8 Comments, 338 Views,
12 Votes
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Lets just face the fact 4/13/2008
Being all "adults" here at this site, it seems
to me that we could use a Little common courtesy. Its ok to
let someone know if your not interested, "thanks,
but no thanks". I don't think there's anything
wrong with that. Its not hard to understand, its our que
to move on. And move on we should. Rejection is a part of being
on this site. Lets just face that fact and go on and still
have fun.
7 Comments, 120 Views,
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Telling Someone You Meet Sorry You Misrepresented 4/10/2008
I met someone through Swapfinder.com about 4 months ago and she was nothing
what she described. I had already booked the hotel room
for us to spend the night but when she arrived I just wanted
to run. I told her I needed to run out and get some drinks but
I never came back. She still called and wanted to meet again.
How do you tell someone sorry you are nothing close to what
I was looking for and still ...
8 Comments, 390 Views,
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How do you do it 4/4/2008
Met a lady online-seemed great-got to know her very well
via email, shared pics (she loooks good)started talking
on phone, etc but her voice absolutely kills me-its awful...how
do artfully back away and not hurt her feelings to much?
4 Comments, 68 Views,
5 Votes
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Why are some people so mean? 3/31/2008
I don't understand why some find it necessary to write
so cruelly when one says a polite "No thank you."
After responding rather than ignoring their communications,
and doing so in a polite and tactful way, I have encountered
such meaness in spirit that it makes me shake my head in disbelief.
Why?
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fisting 3/27/2008
do many women like fisting
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putting yourself in their shoe 3/16/2008
I always have a hard time with saying no too, then i start
thinking what if things were the other way around. If i was
the one who was extremely attracted to the girl and you absolutely
want to know what the hell does she think of you. you soon realize, that yes you might hurt her now but in the
long run it would be better than not hearing the truth.
0 Comments, 14 Views,
4 Votes
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Unsure 2/25/2008
I have a male friend and hes is constantly flirting or making
comments that are suggestful. I usually laugh it off or
joke back with him but after knowing him for two months im
starting to think he might be serious. Any advice? Or maybe
I should ask him outright if he actually has feelings for
me?
3 Comments, 140 Views,
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I'm not fond of smokers 2/23/2008
Peer pressure can often be quite subtle -- something as
simple as a passing suggestion or a visual cue is sometimes
all need to feel pressure to experiment with negative
behaviors. Meeting, and then resisting the challenges
posed by peer pressure takes courage and skill. By spending
time with your and teaching them the different
types of refusal lines they can use, they can decide which
one ...
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Letting her down easy. 2/18/2008
I'm curious to know when your not interested in a someone, what's
the best way to say it, so you don't hurt her feelings?
4 Comments, 42 Views,
2 Votes
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no thanks? 2/15/2008
Fuck that....I say hell yeeeaaazzzzzz
1 Comments, 64 Views,
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Know before you go 2/11/2008
Before you go and meet someone, you should really establish
that chemistry before you go play with them. People will
say anything to get laid. What would you like to hear?
3 Comments, 93 Views,
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NO 2/3/2008
How do you tell someone that your not interested with out
hurting their feelings?
4 Comments, 88 Views,
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a perfect no thanx 1/31/2008
I am not sure what the perfect rejection is, however i do
believe one that comes with a short explanation of why the
person who believed you had enough in common to be good 'adult-friends'
is not your type will recieve less Why nots or agressive
responses then ignoring or a auto reply does. just my thoughts
0 Comments, 58 Views,
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no thanks 12/27/2007
its hard to do , but better for everyone to be polite and say
no thanks rather than nothing at all or being rude
7 Comments, 166 Views,
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Why stand women up? 12/13/2007
Ok I don't get it.All the guys on here bitch and moan
about the lack of women willing to meet but how many of you
ladies have been left hanging at an agreed meeting place/time?I've
run into 2 so far and i know there are others out there that
have done it to some of you.So I have started a new group to
try and help weed out the repeat offenders and let others
know not to waste their time.My time ...
16 Comments, 265 Views,
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are all the men on this site like this. 12/9/2007
i have noticed that alot of the men and some women on this
site will send you nasty emails if you tell them no thanks.
what happened the adult in Swapfinder.com.
7 Comments, 220 Views,
22 Votes
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tough to say no 11/26/2007
I don't think it's in our nature to say no...
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I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ONCE TIME MORE..... 11/20/2007
POOR DEVILS !!!! This is a follow up to my article " I would like..."
This time, and I am referring to the male sex. I would like
to bring up the many times in which I had the opportunity
to witness how far hypocresy was carried by many. The same one that today builds you UP tomorrow will insult
you and offend you.....and why?
GENTLEMEN!! ...
11 Comments, 476 Views,
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no 10/25/2007
say no thanks
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The best way to say NO 10/25/2007
I think that there are many ways to say no to someone. The
best of course is being honest and telling them. Standing
someone up is not the way, too many do that, they say one thing
and then when you arrange to meet, they become a no show.
To me that is the cowards way out.
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Responding 10/12/2007
I have sent out a lot of emails to women asking them if they
would like to chat. Why are women so rude by not returning
the email? I understand maybe I'm not there type, blah,
blah, blah. but an email would be nice acknowledgement
that they aren't fake!
6 Comments, 178 Views,
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Not responding is worse. 10/2/2007
I don't like to hurt someone else's feelings,
but not responding is a worse option only followed by being
mean or rude in response.
When I came here I brought the understanding that I'm
not going to appeal to everyone I'm attracted to - that's
just the way life is. I don't send many e-mails but when
I do, I like to hear back either way and I think most of us do
as well. A simple quick ...
10 Comments, 216 Views,
14 Votes
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Hypocrits or sore losers? 9/15/2007
I consider myself to be semi attractive and pretty damn
nice. So much to my dismay when my hubby and I have said "no
thanks" to some people (and not just on this site)
people have gotten nasty and said some hateful things.
One single male actually went so far as to call me a , another
one said my husband must be controlling me, and another
couple, after us telling them kindly they just weren't ...
5 Comments, 175 Views,
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Feeling bad... 9/12/2007
I've read most of the articles and comments on this
topic, but it hasn't helped me not feel guilty telling
someone no. Most of the time it is a case of "I'm
sorry, I can't drop everything to meet you, but I do
have a life if you had only read my profile" kind of
feeling. I was under the mistaken impression that in order
to be a member you had to at least be able to read, because
most of the ...
2 Comments, 57 Views,
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I'm done 9/3/2007
So you log onto Swapfinder.com, meet a guy, things go well and you hook
up for sex. You both like the sex and continue meeting more
regular then all of a sudden he just doesn't come around
anymore or answer your call. In a "No strings attached"
relationship is it too much to expect a reason why the relationship
is over or is it perfectly acceptable due to the nature of
the relation to just dissolve ...
10 Comments, 225 Views,
24 Votes
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Are we not adults? 8/26/2007
Sometimes if I see a pic I like or a profile that makes me smile
or makes me hot (usually from out of state), I'll send
an email to show appreciation. Most times I'll get
a note back thanking me which is nice. Now there are the times
I will send an email (from my area) asking if they would be
interested in chatting and I get nothing back. There has
even been times when I am contacted, a few ...
17 Comments, 365 Views,
14 Votes
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Turning rejection into a confidence booster 8/26/2007
I know I've only been here for a few days, but I have already
had to give several rejections in chat, emails, and IM.
So far everyone has been very friendly after being turned
down.
I am a woman looking for other women to join a 3some with my
boyfriend, but I've been getting a lot of responses
from guys. Instead of flat out telling them no, instead
I thank them for their interest, ...
2 Comments, 99 Views,
3 Votes
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Bandwagon 8/24/2007
Do you automatically jump on the bandwagon on this site
when someone presents an article to put down certain people
in order to drive them out of the advice line, articles or
blogs?
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