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shavedncurious 60 F
2  Articles
answering messages   6/1/2004

I am a silver member and try to respond to every wink and message I receive. However what I find irritating is that in my header for my profile I ask if the guy isn't over 35 or single to not message me or wink. I constantly get messages as well as winks that don't fit the criteria. Most of them are standard members and I realize that they can't view my profile and that is why I have what ...


2 Comments, 75 Views, 15 Votes ,5.58 Score
hornysoul24563 30 M
1  Article
guys dont like things up the arse during sex   5/30/2004

my mates where talking today and the women where saying that the guys love it when the women stick their fingers up the guys arse but i for one do not like it and was wandering if any guy acctually does?


1 Comments, 59 Views, 16 Votes ,1.95 Score
summer6959 55 F
2  Articles
You don't have to be rude to say no   5/22/2004

The best way to say no is to tell the man that they are attractive but not your type, which is usually true. You don't need to lie and you don't need to be rude to say no.


1 Comments, 47 Views, 37 Votes ,6.88 Score
Difficulty saying "thanks, but no thanks"   5/5/2004

We are young couple, not models but are quiet attractive. But for some reason we seem to only find couples how we really don't hit it off with & when thy ask to meet & get things going- we don't know how to tell them "We're not interested in having sex etc with you" Does anyone have any ideas on how to try & sort out they problem of not wanting to offend, but at the same time telling ...


1 Comments, 71 Views, 24 Votes ,4.83 Score
Chrisabella 41 C
6  Articles
saying no   5/3/2004

I have been talking to someone for quite awhile now but it seems like its going no where. Then all of a sudden they want to me. How do I say no to them but do it nice so I don't burn any bridges?


2 Comments, 15 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
rm_two4fun1962 51 F
115  Articles
Re: Turning down a request   4/23/2004

Just be as honest as possible. If your not comfortable with a person, let them know that. If your not interested because of age or distance, let them know that also. This is what I have done, and it seems to have worked. I do try to answer all replies, and do it honestly and in a timely manner.


1 Comments, 5 Views, 19 Votes ,5.89 Score
grdr9977 47 M
1  Article
how to say no thanks   4/1/2004

If someone shows interest in you and you are not interested....Please at least email them back to say so. They did take the time to send you an email afterall. I know everyone on here doesn't always get a response from everybody they email. Doesn't it make you wonder if they even heard from you?? Soo...the next time someone takes the time to show some interest in you but you aren't ...


0 Comments, 35 Views, 20 Votes ,5.17 Score
rm_ThkWhytGrl74 49 F
1  Article
Did you not read my profile???   2/27/2004

OK let me make this clear...I am not tryin to be rude by stating what type of guy I am interested in. I personally simply choose to date, sleep, or talk to a certain race of men. It doesn't mean I have limited myself. Also, when I say I want dealings with someone my age, I'm sorry if your 30 years older...that's not my fault. Take that up with your mom and dad. I will respond to all ...


1 Comments, 45 Views, 43 Votes ,7.39 Score
rm_rapunzel4u 53 F
1  Article
men are at a disadvantage here (woman's perspective)   2/6/2004

after being on Swapfinder.com for just one month, i can see that men are at a great disadvantage...the number of women (at least women who are not trying to redirect you to a pay site) must be outnumbered by the men by a huge ratio. i think women that appear to be "real" from their profiles probably get an enormous amount of mail...i know i do. for me, part of the reason for being a member here is ...


0 Comments, 35 Views, 57 Votes ,8.43 Score
rm_bmwgoddess 63 F
1  Article
Let's Examine All Sides of This Issue   1/24/2004

I understand the frustration about not getting replies to email from all the articles, primarily from men or couples. However, there is honestly another side to the issue. Many of us females receive numerous emails per day, and cannot possibly reply to all of them. As standard members, we only get so many replies per day, also. Not to mention that there are a number of men who have a ...


8 Comments, 505 Views, 45 Votes ,7.98 Score
Tia53 68 F
1  Article
Saying no thanks isn't always easy.   1/16/2004

I don't think a lot of women are being snobbish. It seems so rude to say no thanks, not interested. It would seem that if a woman doesn't reply, that is her answer. Sometimes, when I have replied in such a way, men will get angry, so I think it depends on the man and there is no way of knowing which type he is.


0 Comments, 90 Views, 10 Votes ,5.97 Score
hotcplnsj 70 C
1  Article
A Simple "No Thank You" Will Do!   1/8/2004

We don't know how other people feel about this but, the one thing that agravates the hell out of both of us are the countless number of couples and single women especially who don't answer their mail. If you have a profile or personal ad posted seeking the company of others, the polite thing to do is respond to mail you get in response to your profile or ad. <br> We get a lot ...


0 Comments, 120 Views, 67 Votes ,8.90 Score
justbill46 70 C
1  Article
Please Be Honest   1/2/2004

I have taken out three people I met on Swapfinder.com. After each date all three said they would like to go out again. Two of them ask me out again, I ask the other. Then the same responce, nothing. Why cant you just be honest and say "No Thank You". The pain of being ask out and stood up is worse than being told no thank you.


2 Comments, 49 Views, 22 Votes ,7.21 Score
Ann192002 41 F
3  Articles
Re: Rude People   12/29/2003

I understand what your saying. I made it pretty clear in my profile that I'm a virgin and all the guys who read it automaticly assume that i'm looking to lose it. I've been known to not respond to some messages sent to me too. With a site like this, a lot of guys on here just assume that the women on here also want just sex and even more than that. I feel if you tell a guy "No Thanks" ...


2 Comments, 67 Views, 17 Votes ,6.66 Score
rm_lozloz72 52 F
1  Article
Just say no   11/11/2003

When someone say's No, they must, and do mean it. If it's you out there, wanting to say no, and you can't because you are scared to hurt there feelings, just say no.


0 Comments, 177 Views, 12 Votes ,4.92 Score
rm_phoenix74000 49 F
1  Article
Why would you ignore an Auto-Reply?   10/30/2003

I have auto reply set up and it clearly states that if you don't get a reply... then you probably won't get one, so thanx, but no thanx. <br> Being a (really hot) single woman on this site means that I get lots of emails every day. I don't spend all my free time on the internet and I'm here because I don't really have the time nor inclination to go out and meet people and ...


0 Comments, 22 Views, 7 Votes ,0.49 Score
Single Girl meeting Couples   10/26/2003

I am a single hot girl with a passion for men and women. I have met with several couples on Swapfinder.com. Some experiences were great, some left a bad taste in my mouth. I've finally learned how to leave feeling great. <br> Here's the dilemma: once all three of you have ackgnowledged you find each other attractive and you are all horny, how do you say no after meeting on a sex website? ...


0 Comments, 41 Views, 206 Votes ,8.56 Score
LoveKMFDM 57 F
1  Article
Women need to decline more respectfully   1/15/2003

I've just been on this site a few months and I must say that in such a consolidated amount of time, I have learned how to respectfully say 'thanks but no thanks'. It's great to get so much response to my profile, but can be too overwhelming at times. I feel it is important to check in with my Swapfinder.com email every day so that it doesn't pile up and get out of control. I look at it like ...


0 Comments, 45 Views, 189 Votes ,9.39 Score