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SexualSedative 47 M
61  questions
Is Swapfinder.com effective in India ? - 10/7/2024

India being a conservative country is not open to sexuality as it should be. My experience has been that just 2% women here on Swapfinder.com are real. Rest are just pimps or want money to Cam. What has been your experience ?

1 response(s), 0 votes
NormanEl 56 M
1  question
HOW IMPORTANT IS YOUR INTUITION? - 8/9/2024

I have been seeing my boyfriend exclusively for years no and we live over an hour's drive from each other. He is in the closet to help maintain employment and I am not in any closet. I have always trusted him until recently. My question is if you only have circumstantial evidence and a strong intuition that someone is playing you, do i need physical proof? to move on, of course i don't ...

1 response(s), 0 votes
analific 71 M
7  questions
What is the best lube to use for sex? - 7/28/2024

I used KY jellie but it got expensive, baby oil and Vaseline but it has petroleum products in it. Now I use cheap vegetable oil, it grows my cock like a cumber. What does everybody else use.

0 response(s), 0 votes
Turtleneck53 71 M
1  question
Messaging Etiquette - 5/20/2024

I'm an older married man, new to this site and looking for a NSA/FWB relationship, with a single or married female. My question is when responding to a profile what is the best way to respond so I don't come on too strong but also to get her attention above the competition? Anyone have any pointers? I'd especially like to hear from the female members.

2 response(s), 0 votes
analific 71 M
7  questions
How to tell a "T" from a "CD" - 3/17/2024

How can you tell a "T" from a "CD"? Is there any difference?

4 response(s), 2 votes
subforuse2024 46 M
1  question
How to become a good Sissy Slut & be an Owners Bitch - 2/19/2024

<br><br> Hi As a recent bdsm fetish kinky little thing I am discovering my new outfits makeup etc daily. Soo much fun. I want to get a nose job and breasts. Based in Oxford I am willing to relocate for anyone wholl have me. Any advice how to meet people.

1 response(s), 2 votes
Hotxhaust69 39 M
1  question
Penis Enlargement pills - 11/10/2023

I am just over 8inch in size but would like to know if there are any penis enlargement pills that work

4 response(s), 2 votes
hanson615 62 M
1  question
Best Place to go for Sex toys - 11/3/2023

New on here. What are members favorite place to go for Sex Toys? <br><br> Thx!

4 response(s), 0 votes
Pegpete 46 M
1  question
Anal orgasm advice for men - 10/22/2023

Any advice on the best positions or toys to use to achieve the best male anal orgasm. I mean when you totally blow your load without touching your cock.

3 response(s), 2 votes
G000dbuddy 37 M
2  questions
Arrange This In Order Of Importance - 9/13/2023

Arrange This In Order Of Importance <br><br> Looks Money Personality Loyalty

7 response(s), 0 votes
G000dbuddy 37 M
2  questions
What does Love mean to you? - 9/13/2023

Respect and Care Romance and Sex Attachment Attraction Magic Faith in God Something else Love has many forms. In what form do you like Love the most?...

2 response(s), 0 votes
Saphyr1000 51 T
1  question
GIFS - 9/4/2023

How do you post GIFS in the chatrooms ?

0 response(s), 1 vote
Aenghus562 67 M
1  question
Travelling and meeting - 2/13/2023

This past December I travelled to Naples Fl. for three weeks. If/when I travel somewhere for a specific length of time how do I announce it to potential partners in advance? It would be rather tedious and time consuming to send out messages/invitations one at a time.

4 response(s), 3 votes
sexygeo336 42 M
5  questions
how much better is a orgy than a ganagbang????? - 8/4/2022

Just wondering <br><br> <br><br> <br><br> how much better is an orgy over a gangbang or r they pretty much the same thing?????????

8 response(s), 6 votes
Turntoutguy 40 M
2  questions
Dealbreaker - 7/27/2022

Is crossdressing a deal breaker for a relationship with women that are bisexual as well?

5 response(s), 2 votes
Turntoutguy 40 M
2  questions
Dealbreaker - 7/27/2022

Is crossdressing a deal breaker for a relationship with women that are bisexual as well?

0 response(s), 0 votes
Straight guys on the DL - 7/6/2022

If you didn't think admitting to having had sex with other men would diminish your social standing at all, would you admit it publicly on a site like this, and would you still be uncomfortable about feeling like you gave up your "straightness"?

9 response(s), 3 votes
Javan091 58 M
1  question
As a BBC what was it like to get that first White Chick in the Ass ? - 5/27/2022

Any other Black man like me ? I've been with white women before, but I've never had or been with one who Loves Anal. Tell me, Bruhs; what was that first experience like ? Or White Guys with Black Women ? I've had experiences with Black Women who Loved or were willing to do Anal. The Tightness around my "D" felt unbelievable, it was Wonderful !!! And the way she Hump Feed me ...

5 response(s), 5 votes
First time - 3/1/2022

I want to experience having sex with tgirls or shemales It be my first time what should I do.

8 response(s), 3 votes
CarolynCrups 64 F
1  question
Why would you think? - 3/1/2022

I wax my mound and keep her clean. I do my best each day to look and smell nice. I take the time not only for myself but for others that are around me. So. Why would you think that I would like to have some hairy faced male between my legs licking my mound? I mean I got rid of the hair that was there. It has been said that a male uses the hair on his face as a mask to hide behind. So far, I ...

8 response(s), 14 votes
i69withyou 70 M
1  question
How do you handle a gal that won't let herself cum? - 2/23/2022

I have a girl friend that always stops before she will let herself cum! She claims even when she plays by herself, she stops before she climaxes! Try as I may, no matter what I do I cannot convince her to let go and allow herself to climax. It doesn't matter if I'm fingering her, eating her, using toys, or fucking her. She always stops before cumming! Anyone have any ideas on how to get ...

27 response(s), 2 votes
maynardcpl 61 C
1  question
how to let transwomen now you aren't chasers - 2/22/2022

my wife and i are have had trans friends and we really enjoy their company and friendship but it seems that it is almost impossible to talk to them if you are a couple. we don't consider them a fetish, it's not just about sex, but the sex when it happens is great, we won't lie.

14 response(s), 12 votes
Lipstick that stays while cocksucking? - 2/22/2022

i have just recently started my crossdressing journey and im loving it! but i have one burning question about lipstick. i see videos of women sucking cock and their lipstick doesnt wear off. what type of lipstick is this??

12 response(s), 8 votes
stumps0 63 M
1  question
standart people - 12/28/2021

iam sending out a lot but getting nothing back, found out a lady cant read it, so how does one add standart to a account

26 response(s), 13 votes
BiSussi 62 F
12  questions
Xmas Gifts - 12/4/2021

Do you know already what you buy for your husband, boyfriend/s or lover/s? <br><br> Somewhat lost this year ;( what would you suggest for guys in their early twenties? <br><br> Not a believer in gift cards, just hope you have some unique gift ideas <br><br> Please do help, as I want to surprise my loved guys!

21 response(s), 11 votes
andyapple2 40 M
1  question
Bicurious - 9/27/2021

Guys, how did u tell ur gf, wife, significant other about wanting to play with another man? Did they get mad or accept it? Ladies how do u feel about ur man playing with other men?

47 response(s), 32 votes
BiSussi 62 F
12  questions
How do you change men? - 9/6/2021

Men have this illusion that women who like to frequent nude beaches or swim in the pool without a bikini are looking for sex? How do you bring men back into reality and convince them that caring, tenderness, special connection and love leads to making love? Nudity has nothing to do with sex, it is just how God made us ...

50 response(s), 20 votes
NUDEMAN693 69 M
2  questions
Men Wearing Panties - 8/31/2021

How many men and women find it attractive a man in women panties? How many women would be upset if boyfriend or husband wore panties?

68 response(s), 29 votes
Camfriendly22 31 M
1  question
Male showers - 7/21/2021

Do females actually enjoy and get aroused watching a man please himself in the shower? O us it just weird?

29 response(s), 10 votes
BiSussi 62 F
12  questions
Sharing Your Partner - 6/9/2021

Some couples build their relationships on loyalty and exclusivity. Do you believe sharing your partner, female or male, enriches a relationship and does using a condom or not changes the situation? I am not talking about a FWB or SEX relationship, but a relationship based on love!

49 response(s), 40 votes
Sizzle - 6/9/2021

Do you prefer a person clothed in there profile pic or nude? Which brings you more sizzle?

14 response(s), 5 votes
5058068oneone8 38 F
1  question
Seek true love - 6/8/2021

I would like to ask why most men are not serious and both men and female doesn’t trust themselves

7 response(s), 10 votes
bluedam53 71 M
2  questions
Truck Stop[s along I-95 - 5/8/2021

Taking a road trip up and down I-95 this summer. How can I find what stops are the best to score at. What is or is there some sort of equitette

28 response(s), 28 votes
bluedam53 71 M
2  questions
Truck Stop[s along I-95 - 5/8/2021

Taking a road trip up and down I-95 this summer. How can I find what stops are the best to score at. What is or is there some sort of equitette

2 response(s), 7 votes
which lipstick for cock sucking - 5/4/2021

i am a beginning crossdresser. i have noticed in videos, both amateur & professional, how lipstick just stays on and doesn't smear while cock sucking. what type of lipstick is this? or is it lipstick at all?

27 response(s), 34 votes
RhandaDoll 52 T
1  question
Underwear choice - 4/30/2021

What kind of underwear do you prefer for your mate to be in (hopefully briefly)!??! Please tell me why.

53 response(s), 26 votes
advent43 68 M
13  questions
Prostate Orgasm - 3/17/2021

Over the years I've become aware of men that can achieve "prostate orgasms" thru prostate stimulation only. I've attempted this with various toys specifically for this purpose without success. Any information, tips or recommendations would be appreciated.

68 response(s), 36 votes
daddysmichele 50 F
5  questions
Making time for fun - 2/17/2021

If this has been asked I'm sorry. I couldn't find it. Plus, seeing as the advice page is seriously lacking I thought I'd ask something that's been on my mind when I get a second to relax. So my question is: how do you make time in a busy schedule for yourself to do what you'd like to do? Be it just relax, or to have quiet time alone with your significant other, and not even ...

28 response(s), 28 votes
Illbcnu6996 36 M
1  question
Condoms - 2/9/2021

Anyone have experience with the condoms that numb out your cock so you can last longer?

85 response(s), 49 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
BI SEXUAL - 2/4/2021

Thos has become an ongoing trend with so many having or have had a sexual relationship or attraction to the opposite sex . I have a friend who has been married to her hubby for 20 years. Marriage has been great sex outstanding. One day she abruptly left work because she wasn't feeling well . To her surprise her husband was home . So she decided to enter through the back door of the house ...

76 response(s), 64 votes
maybe1932 70 C
2  questions
post, blogs and stories - 1/19/2021

Does anyone else have a problem with missing words when you wright a story or blog.? I go back and edit it and find more missing the next day !!

31 response(s), 31 votes
netxsukr 68 M
1  question
Penile Injection - 12/23/2020

Has anyone tried penile injections?

29 response(s), 15 votes
Slipperier4Now 26 F
1  question
How do make the holidays sexy? - 12/16/2020

Tis the season to be naughty! Right? <br><br> Well, how do make the holidays sexy?

1 response(s), 0 votes
GothicPantyhose 53 F
5  questions
Censored Opinions - 12/14/2020

Have you noticed that if your post here is even mildly critical of the website, you will be "denied due to the inclusion of banned_topic"? It's a funny coincidence that, isn't it?

45 response(s), 34 votes
advntrseekers2 58 C
10  questions
Incoming instant messages - 11/28/2020

I continue to receive instant messages when I'm not on the site. Is it because I don't log out? Also, I clear the messages and they are gone but keep coming back, I'm up to 80 some, why do they keep coming back? Thanks

53 response(s), 61 votes
fruit - 11/14/2020

Whats the best sex fruit

47 response(s), 36 votes
What grabs your attention most when instant messaging someone? - 11/7/2020

Should they send you a picture first, then talk? Do you prefer the talking first? Should it be dirty or tame? What gets you to seal the deal? Does the profile picture matter? Let us guys know!

22 response(s), 18 votes
kensmith88 44 M
6  questions
New members email - 11/7/2020

Do new members get free messages for a period of time?

18 response(s), 24 votes
WildDude696 32 M
1  question
Why can't I cum during sex? - 11/6/2020

So I've noticed in recent times that I can't seem to orgasm during sex in recent months; now typically i've been doing breaks between jerking it whenever I have a chance for intimacy (expecting it some time beforehand) but still I struggle to get a pleasing climax during/after sex. <br><br> While it's nice for my partner who is able to benefit from this, I am literally ...

48 response(s), 22 votes
jemrdy 59 M
2  questions
Orgasm issue with partner - 11/3/2020

Have you ever had problems with a sex partner because your dick was used to the sensation it gets when you jerk off? Did you have a hard time cumming -- or a hard time adjusting to the rhythm or feel from your partner? If so, how did you get past it? I have new partner and lose erection while having sex.

31 response(s), 33 votes
seenit 54 M
1  question
New Cock Ring? - 10/18/2020

Need a new cock ring any recommendations? <br><br> Looking for a silver metal one, don't like the rubber ones. But it has to be real metal not chromed, a silver or stainless steel but they are harder to find at adult shop and don't want to use amazon. Rather go to an abs and pick it up, also a reason to go check out the booths too lol Abs is funner with a friend to shop with ...

63 response(s), 45 votes
zoomie1997 47 M
1  question
joining a 3sum - 10/15/2020

I always see folks posting that they want a 3rd to join them? has anyone actually done this? I have to admit this is a huge fantasy of mine and really would like to partake in one. What is the actual best way to go about this?

60 response(s), 50 votes
penis surgery ? - 10/13/2020

I've heard that penis enlargement surgery is not only possible now but safer and more effective and now not too much more than boob jobs ...... <br><br> can anyone enlighten me? <br><br> if it's true I think we will have alot more big cocks than before <br><br> I am happy with what I have but now and then a little stretching is good

46 response(s), 31 votes
Anal lube - 10/9/2020

"Non" natural lube vs. naturtal/organic lube? Any points?

51 response(s), 24 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
VAGINISMUS... - 10/9/2020

I KNOW THIS IS NOT A BLOG SECTION. but is the most engaging part of the site .. <br><br> HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY WOMEN EXPERIENCE PAIN DURING PENETRATION? <br><br> Vaginismus.. this is a condition where the vaginal muscles contract making it painful to have sex. It is normal and happens to alot of women. It is makes it hard for the vaginal muscles to relax or expand ...

33 response(s), 31 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
HIGH SEX DRIVE - 9/25/2020

Hii!! i know this is something some of us have and are struggling with is to get sexual satisfaction from the partners we have.. I have had a high sex drive since my 20s and it has ruined the relationships i had. I attract great guys but sexually i never get satisfied. I ended having a sexual partner for 5yrs but he moved to philly for a job promotion. He is the only guy that could keep ...

52 response(s), 68 votes
Nerdy or more serious? - 9/18/2020

Ladies what do you like more from your partner? Someone that is more serious or someone a little more nerdy. You dont want the far end of any extreme but there is wiggle room in the middle. What do you like?

2 response(s), 0 votes
Do you let the apocalypse stop you from meeting? - 9/18/2020

Are you still meeting up with people and open for more now the apocalypse hit? I believe people can still be safe and meet. How about you?

1 response(s), 3 votes
Jay_brat 49 F
1  question
Sex after divorce??? - 9/13/2020

I am not sure my title is quite accurate. <br><br> Here is the issue...I was raised a strict Catholic. I waited until I got married to have sex. I didn't seem to have the highest sex drive either. <br><br> He left 5 years ago and we have been divorced for 2 years. I would love to get back out into the dating field and frankly I would like to not be so upright about ...

64 response(s), 41 votes
Superman4695 35 M
56  questions
Why in corona virus advisories... - 9/11/2020

is there no mention of dieting and exercise to lose weight because hypertension, diabetes, and obesity itself causes a whole host of problems beyond corona. With corona it seriously increases your chances for a bad outcome. It is hard but people should try to be healthier and loss weight and maintain better habits to achieve that goal. If you want a longer healthier life it would seem you should ...

30 response(s), 27 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
AGE IS NOTHING BUTTT...... - 8/30/2020

I am writting this beacuse it seems like something very interesting. I know many of us might be experiencing it on the site. For as long i have been on here many of the younger guys approach me frequently . Some of us associate age with knowledge, experience, etc .. I once had a fling with someone younger upto almost 10yrs young and it was a blast while it lasted. Then i dated a guy 10 years ...

93 response(s), 76 votes
Wetandhard2020 57 C
4  questions
Swapfinder.com Meets - 8/24/2020

What are people's experiences of first meets and how long it has taken them to meet with suitable singles or couples? We'd like to try our first mmf or mfmf but dont seem to get passed the chatting/emailing stage. Any hints or tips, or is it one of those if it's right, it will happen? We don't want to just jump into something for the sake of the experience, we'd like it to ...

49 response(s), 43 votes
kensmith88 44 M
6  questions
Unread emails - 8/14/2020

I have 3 emails pending when I look to see unread it shows none , how do I find the unread messages? I have looked at the various emails that they be from refreshed the options in the email section

29 response(s), 28 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
SCAMMERS - 8/14/2020

This has become annoying and frustrating to many of us .I have been on the site for a long time and i get asked the same question all the time. ARE YOU REAL ? i know many of us have been scammed especially men and it is sad when you have invested time in talking to someone only to findout they are a scam. My best approach normally is to ask many questions, insist on meet and greet first in a ...

75 response(s), 70 votes
jlscranton 34 M
1  question
whose going covid stir crazy - 8/8/2020

tell me how your coping with the social distancing

13 response(s), 6 votes
dangbitches 59 F
35  questions
Quesstions - 8/7/2020

Why do my questions show up on A/L then there gone after a while?

14 response(s), 29 votes
Anybody else? - 7/31/2020

Is there anybody else having a problem when you go to see who sent you a flirt? I go to it and nothing appears but a blank screen.

72 response(s), 82 votes
Blog vs article - 7/28/2020

I guess I’m a bit confused, what is the difference between a blog post and an article in the “magazine” are articles just questions? What’s the benefit to one over the other? Does anyone know, and is this how you earn ?

16 response(s), 23 votes
Blog vs article - 7/28/2020

I guess I’m a bit confused, what is the difference between a blog post and an article in the “magazine” are articles just questions? What’s the benefit to one over the other? Does anyone know, and is this how you earn ?

3 response(s), 3 votes
Mrfuntime3581 32 M
1  question
Meeting Advice - 7/21/2020

What are some good advice for meeting someone offline from this website?

36 response(s), 33 votes
Wetandhard2020 57 C
4  questions
Double Vag - Urban Legend or Perfectly Doable? - 7/19/2020

Has anyone actually done it and if so, could you recommend the best position to do it in please? x

41 response(s), 38 votes
IM - 7/17/2020

What is the deal with the new IM..I have mine set to distance, as in those closest to me and all I get are people that are worlds away..have not figured out hot to correct it yet

38 response(s), 22 votes
Pyhsical Sexual Feats - 7/16/2020

Do you/have you ever gone to extreme for sexual sensation. one example was holding a prone hold while having my cock milked by perky titted mistress. another is a handstand blow job. The mix of physical and sexual i find more intense orgasm. Has anyone else felt this and enjoy it

4 response(s), 6 votes
MidwestMolly51 57 F
3  questions
Is it a bad thing to not want to talk on the phone? - 7/15/2020

I don't feel comfortable in talking on the phone to a man with I don't know. So because I won't talk on the phone the guy wants nothing to do with me. It should be my choice what I want to do not the guy's

60 response(s), 36 votes
How do i delete certain things? Such as... - 7/14/2020

How do I delete top fans, flirts, and other undesirable people from my page? For some odd abs unforeseen reason I have a man as my top fan. I'm straight and I will NEVER get with a person from the same sex. I know I could do this very thing I'm asking about a few years ago. Sol why can't I do this now? I find it extremely offensive and it makes me want to delete this profile and start ...

14 response(s), 12 votes
daq2791 52 M
2  questions
Should I break it off? - 7/13/2020

I am a married man that has been in a hot discrete relationship with another man for the past 3 years. We really enjoy each others company and most recently he wants me to leave my wife and be with him. I told him no but I can tell he really wants me. Should I break it off or continue it and run the risk she may find out about us?

26 response(s), 23 votes
booper8 36 M
1  question
Timing of Food Intake and Cleaning for Best Anal Play - 7/11/2020

Hi, <br><br> I am bi and interested to get more comfortable bottoming for men and pegging women or Trans-women. However, bottoming seems to be a lot of work for me, and slightly stressful and exhuasting before play. I'm looking for tips and insight into other people's (women and men) approach to prepare for anal play. What is your preparation to avoid any ...

17 response(s), 16 votes
Broadcasting with an android phone - 7/11/2020

When broadcasting, how do i switch the camera from selfie, front, to the back camera? I dont want to show me, i want to show my wife in front of me.

7 response(s), 10 votes
Why? - 7/7/2020

Why can't standard members reply to emails from gold members??

10 response(s), 7 votes
Acetheking216 38 M
1  question
Point for Gold - 7/6/2020

I'm fairly new to the site and I'm sorry if this has been touched on already. I was just curious if there is any way to redeem your earned for gold memberships? I think it would be an awesome incentive myself and again I do apologize if I'm behind the times with my question. Thank you, Ace

21 response(s), 23 votes
Ahornyguy64 60 M
1  question
Why does IM suddenly stop working? - 7/6/2020

I’m a paid gold member.. I use IM a decent amount. So, Ive not even had my membership a week.. late last night the IM feature stops working. The button used to send the message is grayed out. I send a question in for the help desk but haven’t heard. In searching around I found that I had 64 . I bought another 1000 and its still not working.. Ive seen comments in profiles for people ...

20 response(s), 10 votes
Do women enjoy watching guys blow guys - 7/5/2020

I just started dating a girl who really enjoys watching guys blow guys. Is it more of videos or do girls like watching the real thin?

36 response(s), 21 votes
ffbim 68 M
1  question
I seen this on profiles - 7/5/2020

I seen this on profiles. can someone tell me the meaning of #&39 ?

13 response(s), 5 votes
vik5_6in 48 M
1  question
Why do women close their eyes during a blow while men open their eyes during the lick? - 7/5/2020

It is a mystery that needs solving. Women for their most parts close their eyes while the rod is down their throat while for the men it is the opposite. Men for the most part keep their eyes open when they are working their mouths for the pussy. Does this difference boil down to something evolutionary ? Are women are from Venus during the blow and are Men from the Mars during the lick ? Your ...

30 response(s), 14 votes
oralbottomhere 71 M
2  questions
gay bar pickup question... - 6/29/2020

this question is for men that go to gay bars to pick up men, as someone that wants to be "picked up or hit on", how or what should i do or wear to better my odds?..and yes i'm a bottom....thanks!

13 response(s), 25 votes
Superman4695 35 M
56  questions
Should the site notify when someone has blocked a user? - 6/28/2020

I have found out in a few instances like 2 or 3 that I cannot post on someone's advice lines post and I never made a personal attack on them. Fair's fair I will add them to my list which contains three members. <br><br> Another option is the site block also works both ways. they are added to your auto-block list which I could get behind. Why should they have the right to ...

46 response(s), 39 votes
Feeling shy about first meets.. - 6/20/2020

I know this seems obvious.. but does anyone else get bad anxiety from crippling shyness the closer the date of a meet gets! i'm a bag of nerves! does it get better?! how do you cope? always work out or never worth the pain of it all in the end?

43 response(s), 37 votes
BioMutanten 63 M
1  question
What do you do if no woman will talk to you or give you sex for 20 years - 6/19/2020

I have been on the Internet for 20 years since Jan. 1999 when I built my company URL. Never had to work or pay a bill ever since. So for 20 years I joined every "dating" site I could find on the Internet because I got fooled by my own computer into believing I could find a girlfriend there. After 2 decades of "chatting" with " profiles" I have never talked to any ...

27 response(s), 10 votes
CuteCouple4u2C3 58 C
1  question
Can't broadcast privately - 6/18/2020

Our cam is working fine. We can broadcast publicly, but we can't broadcast privately. Doesn't work when we try to send our cam in another member's chat room, or when we try to click the public/private button on the bottom left of our cam screen. <br><br> What is the deal? <br><br> Help! <br><br> Thanks! <br><br> CC4U

14 response(s), 16 votes
Polite/respectful vs pushover doormat milquetoast - 6/18/2020

Is it difficult for women to tell the difference between the two? <br><br> My general demeanor is polite/respectful, but over the last 20 years and primarily via internet rather than real life where they can observe to know better, too many women, once they get comfortable, make the mistake of assuming they can just step on me, try to take over my life/home, chase away my friends, ...

21 response(s), 13 votes
nimrod17 57 M
16  questions
Opening Lines - 6/16/2020

I recently added a couple photos to my profile and the # of contacts increased dramatically. It's been interesting. Why would somebody send 1 or 2 word messages? I'm sorry but 'sup? (well not even a word) is going to be ignored in person or online. Are these simpletons TRYING to sabotage themselves?

24 response(s), 35 votes
Worst_Behavior4 45 C
1  question
Meeting a like minded couple - 6/14/2020

Why is it so hard to meet a like minded couple?? We've meet a few couples in person that we had great chats with. Then once in person you realize all if not most communication was all from one of the spouses and not both. Personality doesn't match to their online presence. One is hot and the other is a dud!? Personality wise.... or you get all chat and no meet, a meet up is discussed ...

11 response(s), 14 votes
Hahaha0830 43 M
1  question
Not much meeting going on - 6/13/2020

I've been on here for 2 years and have had one meet with a women and it was less than stellar. I have sent to many messages to count through email or IM and I mainly get no response or rejected politely. Should I be more Direct in my messages rather than the conventional ?Hello, How are you?" I have a hard time sending expansive messages when the likelihood of a response is low. ...

22 response(s), 16 votes
Illbcnu6969 37 M
1  question
Lost stamina - 6/12/2020

Came back from my deployment and i feel like i lost a lot if my stamina. It hasnt improved much and i dont last as long as i used too. Any tips?

17 response(s), 11 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
BECOMING CELIBATE - 6/11/2020

I just turned 47 and yes that is my body working out works . I have been on this site for a very long time. I met very nice guys made friends with some and also did hengout with a couple. The last guy i met was recently.He is a guy i have always wanted and dreamed off . Things went well until a 2 weeks ago things changed. Communication died down and we don't hengout anymore.He says he likes ...

26 response(s), 22 votes
Pussyeater826969 42 M
1  question
Watching your partner - 6/9/2020

Do women think it's HOT to watch their man pleasing another woman? I love to watch the woman I am with, with another man or woman. But she doesn't always seem to be into it in reverse.. is this normal?

29 response(s), 17 votes
Any luck from this site. - 6/2/2020

Is it easy to find a friend on this site. Any one had experience with couples M/F on from this site?

55 response(s), 30 votes
Daytimer09B 56 M
1  question
Need input from the guys on here. - 6/1/2020

I have been asked to do a photoshoot for a female model friend of mine. She is not sure what type of shots we need to take so I am going to throw it out there and let you all help decide. <br><br> What is/are your favorite shots of women... naked or dressed? <br><br> Examples: Upskirt, Downblouse, bent over naked, legs crossed, holding boobs up with arms crossed, ...

38 response(s), 28 votes
Hiddenwifesub 33 F
1  question
Can one cam in secret - 5/31/2020

It's undeniably easier to hide your identity as a man when caming all the action is down below. How about us women who want to keep our faces secret. Any tips tricks thoughts?

29 response(s), 22 votes
Wetandhard2020 57 C
4  questions
Exhibitionism - 5/30/2020

If you were seen having sex, would it be more embarrassing or exciting if its was someone you knew? If it was exciting being seen by someone you knew, who would be most exciting to be seen by? Friend, Relation or Workmate?

14 response(s), 16 votes
Wetandhard2020 57 C
4  questions
Indoor or Outdoor Sex - 5/30/2020

Do you folks have a preference for indoor or outdoor sex and if so, is there a partiuclar reason for your choice? <br><br> L&G x

21 response(s), 11 votes
G0rd0_ 33 M
1  question
How do I cum harder? - 5/30/2020

Anybody know any tricks, tips, secrets to cum harder?

23 response(s), 18 votes
sandburr60 69 M
9  questions
Blogs - 5/28/2020

Does anybody write on blogs anymore. I had been following about a dozen different blogs, but nobody seems to be using them anymore. Why is that?

19 response(s), 5 votes
sandburr60 69 M
9  questions
Blogs - 5/28/2020

Does anybody write on blogs anymore. I had been following about a dozen different blogs, but nobody seems to be using them anymore. Why is that?

1 response(s), 0 votes
mdbaltoeast 75 M
3  questions
Why Anal Sex? - 5/26/2020

For the ladies in particular, men can chime in as well. What is the fixation with anal? I once had a girl friend who liked it. I did it to please her, only once or twice, but was not a fan. I get notices from ladies saying they want a guy to do it to them. How many are saying that and really want it or just think all guys want it? Ladies, your thoughts, comments??

45 response(s), 20 votes
nimrod17 57 M
16  questions
Can one safely play with a partner who has herpes? - 5/25/2020

A woman I know wants IT bad but has herpes. She says she takes a daily med and is safe with a 2% chance of contracting herpes through sexual contact. She further claimed that the transmission comes from skin-to-skin, not genitals. That's a 1 in 50 chance! I don't like those odds. <br><br> Should I? And if I do what extra precautions should I take? Serious and humorous ...

32 response(s), 34 votes
str8kinkygirl 51 F
1  question
New here--Any advice on what type of person to avoid? - 5/24/2020

I would like advice from someone more seasoned on this site. Is there a 'tell' early on that someone might be bad news?

13 response(s), 9 votes
berlin4u1972 55 C
1  question
Is it just me??? - 5/23/2020

I was wondering something, and hopefully I will get some insight into the things I find myself fantasizing about more and more lately... Every time I am riding a cock, no matter how good it feels, I cant stop thinking about sucking it!!like, I have to make myself hop off of it so I can lick and suck it, it makes me so wet to even think about it, so when i am doing it , i ...

24 response(s), 18 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
SEX TOYS - 5/22/2020

i have always wondered why people use toys during sex . I have never had the interest in being aroused by the use of toys alone or with a partner.I feel like i might get addicted to using them more. I know many guys enjoy using them on a woman and vice versa . I prefer to not have them. What are the advantages and disadvantages of using sex toys ?

28 response(s), 31 votes
nuotatore69rt 55 M
1  question
Confirm you ID. Is it safe? - 5/21/2020

Question for those who gave Swapfinder.com their real name and uploaded their government identification. Have you had any problems from that?

29 response(s), 17 votes
Gottdatgood 59 F
2  questions
Cam Scam, what does this mean? - 5/20/2020

So I posted a pic and this was the comment, I am not 100% sure but I think this is insinuating something like I'm not real or a scam? Totally confused, can someone explain this? And of course, this person is blocked!!!...

22 response(s), 20 votes
teclis55 44 M
1  question
Increased Interest! - 5/19/2020

Might seem a bit of a silly question, but whats the best way to get increased interest on here?! I've been on and off the site for a couple of years and never managed to get a meet or any email responses (and i must have sent 100 by now!) except one! A girl who exchanged numbers and we got very friendly but after i year i realised she was never going to meet and she never did lol. Perhaps my ...

9 response(s), 8 votes
wickedcat2006 49 F
292  questions
all about the benjamins - 5/18/2020

what do i do if my partner and i always end up arguing and money? sex is great. every thing else is great except our money issues!!

10 response(s), 26 votes
Gemini52783 41 F
2  questions
Instant messaging help - 5/18/2020

Where do my previous instant messages go? When I leave the screen and come back they are all gone.

6 response(s), 15 votes
Gemini52783 41 F
2  questions
Instant messaging help - 5/18/2020

Where do my previous instant messages go? When I leave the screen and come back they are all gone.

0 response(s), 0 votes
Poolboy4summerfun - 5/17/2020

I'm 40 and athletic cute and kind. I'm into older woman like 60's how do I get them to notice me and check me out. I want so bad to make love to a mature women this summer I'm sure she will love the ORAL attention I give her!!!!

5 response(s), 8 votes
Poolboy4summerfun - 5/17/2020

I'm 40 and athletic cute and kind. I'm into older woman like 60's how do I get them to notice me and check me out. I want so bad to make love to a mature women this summer I'm sure she will love the ORAL attention I give her!!!!

1 response(s), 0 votes
MeNyou276 48 M
1  question
meeting someone - 5/16/2020

would you meet up with someone who didn't share any kind of picture or share anything about them but that they want your address and to fuck?

34 response(s), 17 votes
Gottdatgood 59 F
2  questions
Do we tell him or no??!!!! - 5/16/2020

So, he is minding his business, looks peaceful, but, he is exposed... Do we tell him?...

23 response(s), 12 votes
wincardium 61 F
1  question
Sex in the time of COVID-19? - 5/14/2020

I live in NYC. Noo Yawk always has to be at the center of something, and here I am, smack dab in the epicenter of the greatest global pandemic since the Spanish flu. <br><br> Not trying to make light of a horrible situation. All I hear these days are the ambulances racing by. <br><br> But, a girl has her needs. <br><br> I thought I'd take to the polls: ...

38 response(s), 25 votes
tightsmoothfuck 30 M
11  questions
A Couple of Three - 5/14/2020

So, I'm wondering if anyone here is in a couple of three? I've seen couples on IG and have heard of a few people that I know that have tried it. I'm told that it works like any other relationship, but how? lol Just curious to know anyone's experience in a threeway relationship.

7 response(s), 8 votes
WyoCowboy7751 71 M
5  questions
How do you ? - 5/14/2020

When reading a Blog and you want to post a reply with an added photo; how do you load the photo ?? I know it's probably just me; but can't figure it out !!!

6 response(s), 2 votes
Atmosfear612 44 M
1  question
Roleplay Ideas? - 5/13/2020

Trying to spice things up at home and thought about roleplaying. Any good scenarios prides to share?

9 response(s), 16 votes
wickedcat2006 49 F
292  questions
quarantine time!! - 5/13/2020

your partner has a with his/her ex and decided to spend some of the quarantine time to be closer with the . <br><br> how would you handle this?

10 response(s), 14 votes
sadisticxkassidy 43 F
1  question
Advice - 5/12/2020

Hello I am fairly new to all of this and wanted to take the time to tell you more about me, my experiences, likes and known dislikes. <br><br> I was born in 1981 and grew up in a family that sex wasn't spoken about and when you did you were made to feel dirty about it, especially whenever you touched yourself. Yes, I was a typical that experimented with my boyfriend at the time ...

5 response(s), 6 votes
JayMMF 27 M
1  question
Spotting the fakes? New member advice please. - 5/11/2020

Morning all, <br><br> I recently joined this site and just like other apps / sites, I expected there to be fake profiles. However, on sign up I instantly received 14 messages that I cannot read without upgrading. <br><br> Now I am not against upgrading to 'GOLD' and would if I found this site helpful in my persuit of sexual kinks to try (MMF, DP, etc). However, ...

27 response(s), 27 votes
MidwestMolly51 57 F
3  questions
What is your favorite sex toy? - 5/10/2020

Im interested in experimenting with sex toys and was just curious which sex toy should I experiment with first. I've never used sex toys before.

30 response(s), 15 votes
MidwestMolly51 57 F
3  questions
What is your favorite sex toy? - 5/10/2020

Im interested in experimenting with sex toys and was just curious which sex toy should I experiment with first. I've never used sex toys before.

1 response(s), 0 votes
platinum_gigolo 53 M
5  questions
How long would you wait to start meeting again after this mess? - 5/10/2020

I'm thinking two weeks after everything opens back up. I'm still working and with the public daily. I don't want to get tested cause I don't have any symptoms and don't want to waste a test that someone else might need. <br><br> But for real I'm ready to meet right now but I got to keep my horny sex drive in check and make sure this mess is under control. ...

30 response(s), 14 votes
JamesSpyBond 59 M
1  question
Why is it that nice guys finish last? - 5/9/2020

I am nice guy just looking to meet people, get to know them then have sex with him. When I do this, I never get any one to chat or hookup with me but if I act like a or a bad boy, I get replies out of my ears. I don't want to change who I am so any advice for this nice guy?

12 response(s), 10 votes
Oceana1969 58 F
4  questions
Recent friend activity - 5/9/2020

I liked somones picture long ago. Since then they constantly show up in my current friend activity. I am not friends with this person and i have blocked the profile to try to silence it from taking up my feed. This person is very active and kudos to them. But why am i seeing their content if we are not friends and i have blocked their profile?

20 response(s), 22 votes
help for standard members - 5/5/2020

Any tips for how standard members can make contact . messenger isn't working and neither are comments on pictures

43 response(s), 20 votes
daveisbad2 68 M
2  questions
caming and no show? - 5/5/2020

ok this is the deal. I am a straight guy and was on cam, fully clothed. People pop on and off .both and female, i don't always see who's watching since i am at work and cant always see the list of who is watching. usually when i notice someone and they are not what i am looking for i them off, mainly males. This one guy was on and he did'nt say any thing to warrant ...

1 response(s), 4 votes
HornyOldFucker76 67 M
4  questions
friend's profile - 5/4/2020

This weekend I discovered the Swapfinder.com profile of a friend/former coworker and his wife. I had no idea they were into swinging. Should I check out their profile details and send them a message, or should I pretend that I never saw it? I'd really like to fuck my friend's wife. What would you do?

20 response(s), 8 votes
silura99 40 F
2  questions
Cock sleeves - 5/1/2020

So, I just discovered that cock sleeves were a thing! Has anyone every used one? If so, how was it? Is it pleasurable for both partners?

16 response(s), 7 votes
Discretion is a must 🤫🤫🤫 - 4/30/2020

As I peruse over countless profiles, really fancying the photos as well as some of the videos, I can't help but notice a common theme amongst a lot of the profiles. Yes, I do eventually get to the reading portion of the profile. What I'm noticing, 🧐, is there are a lot of you whom desire discretion to be a must. Which in itself led me to thinking, 🤔, well is discretion not the ...

5 response(s), 1 vote
Discretion is a must 🤫🤫🤫 - 4/30/2020

As I peruse though countless profiles, really fancying the images as well as a few videos, and I finally make it to the reading portion. I can't help but notice a common theme, "discretion is a must" 🤫🤫🤫. To which I proceed to ponder 🤔, is discretion not the greatest part of valor? Which has absolutely nothing to do with this, I just like using it every time is see that ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
What does it mean? - 4/29/2020

What does it mean when a profile contains I&#39im in it? I know that profiles preceed with rm mean returning member, but is the prior a bot identifier? I see it so often, it came be a fluke. Also, why are there so many women in Taiwan flirting with me when I live in South Carolina? Green card? America's success at fighting the pandemic? Whst?

17 response(s), 10 votes
RubenesqueDebbie 68 F
1  question
cum - 4/24/2020

(SIZE) Being a reader i tend to read a lot of the erotica. , i have written a few myself__I am curious Do people really really love cum that much?______________so much so that they would lick it out of their partners pussies, cocks, bum hole??______________ Cmon help me understand

48 response(s), 28 votes
jackrback 76 M
1  question
Deja vu - 4/24/2020

I left Swapfinder.com about a year ago because the rules had been altered to make it very difficult to talk to people without an upgraded . I decided to give it another try and so far it is no better. I use to get free gold due to the number of views I received . Are there ways to get temporary upgrades now?

20 response(s), 16 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
GOOD PUSSY OR GOOD DICK ? - 4/24/2020

What do we like ? I like sex so much. but i don't seem to attrart the right guy. I had a sexual partner for 5yrs he moved to philly for a job promotion. That was the best dick i ever had . Our connection and friendship was fun and amazing. After he left I opted to be celibate for a while . My friends setup the profile behind my back coz I didn't date or look for guys. I have an ...

14 response(s), 23 votes
What to write in a friend request... - 4/23/2020

I would like to get some advise on what to write when creating a friend request. I have written several and I typically keep them to a couple of sentences that either comment the person or note a compatibility, along with a request for friendship "if interested". I try to message only those that show a favorable compatibility rating and I am polite with my message. I do not add any ...

10 response(s), 9 votes
Naughtyfae 55 F
1  question
How To Get Laid By More than one Man At A Time. - 4/23/2020

I have a fantasy I would like to fulfill. Have two men suck one of my breasts each and then get pussy fucked by the back by at least two men. I only want the sex to be gentle. The situation would call for much discretion. How could I make it happen?

20 response(s), 16 votes
cuddlymouse 62 F
1  question
Friends List - 4/22/2020

How do I take someone OFF my friends list?

6 response(s), 6 votes
lowerslowerguy 76 M
3  questions
Is this normal for a woman when she cums? - 4/22/2020

Unusual question here... Let me explain... I love going down on a woman and watching her cum as I lick her. Had a strange situation. Twice now, a woman I was going down on, came so hard, she momentarily lost control of her bowels. Not a lot, just a little. Has this ever happened to any of you?

11 response(s), 11 votes
SuckMy8Plus 59 M
57  questions
Naked in Nature? - 4/21/2020

I Love being nude in the wilds of bushland. Do You? Why do you think it's So Exciting to walk around Naked under the trees?

7 response(s), 5 votes
Why? - 4/21/2020

Why is it ok for a woman to look for more than what they are getting at home but when a guy does he is a cheater?or no one will talk to him? A guy can be in a sexless Marriage also!

8 response(s), 6 votes
Oldmanaz2 65 M
3  questions
Contacting a member that has blocked you. - 4/19/2020

Weird question. Someone hotlisted me but it appears they have me blocked. I’m not sure if the hotlist was legit. Is there any way to contact a member through Swapfinder.com that has blocked you?

45 response(s), 24 votes
1theMisfits 44 F
1  question
Do Men like/care/dislike/love/turned on/turned off when I meet with them and tell them exactly what - 4/18/2020

I wonder if men like it when I tell them where in the room and how to fuck me? Example come closer to me take of your pants. Im going to get up on this counter top and then we can change positions in a few mins. A few mins later ok im ready turn me around bend me over the chair and fuck me slow but hard. So I changed positions like 6times. Does that effect performance? Turn on or turn on? Like ...

50 response(s), 31 votes
EfresherE 41 M
1  question
Hard time busting in a condom - 4/17/2020

So, I've been having a hard time cumming with a condom on. I can almost get there but just cant cross the finish line. After this point I go to semi hard then back to rock hard and back and forth. Whats wrong with me? I just want to CUM!

29 response(s), 13 votes
WyoCowboy7751 71 M
5  questions
What do you use ..... - 4/17/2020

When broadcast yourself on cam; what software do you use ? I have had an issue with Flash ! I open broadcast and cam picture shows up but in the meantime the cam icon does not show ! I have gone into Model Chat, find a model with one or no viewers, engage her in private chat, tell her what issue is and request that she open my cam, permission box will pop up which I grant, picture for her ...

4 response(s), 9 votes
Sexyslut4kink 43 F
1  question
IM Rules - 4/16/2020

How many do you need to have before you can use IM? I have over 200 but I cannot ever reply to them. IT here has not been helpful. Any ideas?

10 response(s), 13 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
When do you stop using a condom - 4/15/2020

When you’re seeing a guy semi regularly, at what point do you stop using a condom? I’m keen to know experiences of others

44 response(s), 24 votes
nimrod17 57 M
16  questions
Seeking advice on message archiving - 4/15/2020

I wanted to go back to a contact I had made some time ago. When I tried to review the message, it was not displayed. The oldest message archived is about 3 weeks old. Is there a way, short of cutitng and pasting, to preserve message threads older than 3 weeks? If so, how do I find my older messages?

6 response(s), 9 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
ANAL SEX ? - 4/12/2020

Anal sex has become common. I always wondered how people got STDs through anal . So i asked my doctor. This is what she said . The tissue and skin around the anus acts like a protective barrier for the bottom of the digestive system which is also connected to blood stream. The tissue inside the anus is thinner and delicate and more likely to bleed and tear as a result of penetration. It ...

27 response(s), 36 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
ANAL SEX ? - 4/12/2020

Anal sex has become common. I always wondered how people got STDs through anal . So i asked my doctor. This is what she said . The tissue and skin around the anus acts like a protective barrier for the bottom of the digestive system which is also connected to blood stream. The tissue inside the anus is thinner and delicate and more likely to bleed and tear as a result of penetration. It ...

0 response(s), 3 votes
FFU22018 57 F
19  questions
If It Takes Forever, I Will Wait for You - 4/11/2020

When I'm in contact with someone that seems interesting, I'll usually ask to meet right away. Not for sex. A short public meet for a drink or over a bucket of balls at a driving range. Just a face to face, so we at least know we're wasting our time on an actual person. I watched plenty of fakes disappear the moment meeting is discussed. If that's the case, let's get it over ...

38 response(s), 25 votes
FFU22018 57 F
19  questions
If It Takes Forever, I Will Wait for You - 4/11/2020

When I'm in contact with someone that seems interesting, I'll usually ask to meet right away. Not for sex. A short public meet for a drink or over a bucket of balls at a driving range. Just a face to face, so we at least know we're wasting our time on an actual person. I watched plenty of fakes disappear the moment meeting is discussed. If that's the case, let's get it over ...

0 response(s), 2 votes
Strongcleanseed 39 M
1  question
Well my curiosity and frustration all in one. .. - 4/8/2020

Dear Magazine, I know this may sound like a redundant question. Yet I am having a difficult time finding a local couple or woman. Sure I find hits but the people I find are all out of state or even trying to distinguish those women that <br><br> <br><br> ?

16 response(s), 11 votes
HowiePhD 32 M
3  questions
Worth it? - 4/6/2020

I have had an account now for a little over a year and I have had zero interest reciprocated back. What is the secret to actually making connections with people on here? I have my profile all done, pics up, status updates but no “hits”. Am I doing something wrong? Please advise!! <br><br> <br><br> Sincerely, <br><br> Sexually frustrated .

22 response(s), 15 votes
HowiePhD 32 M
3  questions
Worth it? - 4/6/2020

I have had an account now for a little over a year and I have had zero interest reciprocated back. What is the secret to actually making connections with people on here? I have my profile all done, pics up, status updates but no “hits”. Am I doing something wrong? Please advise!! <br><br> <br><br> Sincerely, <br><br> Sexually frustrated .

0 response(s), 1 vote
HowiePhD 32 M
3  questions
Worth it? - 4/6/2020

I have had an account now for a little over a year and I have had zero interest reciprocated back. What is the secret to actually making connections with people on here? I have my profile all done, pics up, status updates but no “hits”. Am I doing something wrong? Please advise!! <br><br> <br><br> Sincerely, <br><br> Sexually frustrated .

0 response(s), 1 vote
Koklhr 72 M
1  question
Help with gag reflex. Deep throat. - 4/2/2020

I don't know how many people do it. How can I get over the gag reflex with a I take a cock down my throat?

34 response(s), 23 votes
Cutehouguy 43 M
1  question
Standing Out in the Crowd - 4/1/2020

Since we're all being socially distant in the real world....you're all doing that right? I'm sure no one here would break the guidelines our governments are so carefully laying out just to get a little sexual healing, would they? I'm shocked. Anyway, since most (maybe) are keeping a safe distance, for now, it may be a good time to work on some of the 'ole profiles and ...

51 response(s), 24 votes
WyoCowboy7751 71 M
5  questions
I'm Lost ...... - 3/31/2020

In the last several weeks; I have noticed Blog replies that have just 869 or eight six nine or other numbers only !! What is that all about ??

9 response(s), 12 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
SEXUAL CONNECTION OR FRIENDSHIP - 3/29/2020

I have been on the site for so long . I have talked and met so many nice and interesting guys . There some people you have a sexual connection and some a friendship connection. Besude sexual connection am glad i made some good friends too . Sexual connection can happen online but not in person because of chemistry and attraction. Why do people get upset when you say your not interested? I would ...

46 response(s), 41 votes
Lookn4aFunLady20 39 M
2  questions
Do you meet people on here or just chat? - 3/28/2020

I'd love to hear how many people are here just for fun or to actually meet up for real fun. LOL! So do you meet people on here in person? If not yet would you?

0 response(s), 0 votes
Lookn4aFunLady20 39 M
2  questions
What are horny people doing? - 3/28/2020

With strip clubs and massages closed and no bars/clubs open, how can horny people meet others in person? <br><br> I miss the touch of a woman so that is what brought me here. So horny, LOL!

0 response(s), 0 votes
Lakedemon72 77 M
2  questions
Anal Sex - 3/28/2020

I still have my ass cherry but am considering giving it . Do you normally cum when being ass fucked without jacking off?

17 response(s), 21 votes
Lakedemon72 77 M
2  questions
Anal Sex - 3/28/2020

I still have my ass cherry but am considering giving it . Do you normally cum when being ass fucked without jacking off?

4 response(s), 1 vote
Are the women here serious about meeting? Are they single or - 3/27/2020

Are the women here serious about meeting? Are they single or do men find they are here for other reasons? <br><br> Are you men finding dates? I mean, real dates ?

0 response(s), 0 votes
gabra007 29 M
2  questions
Gold or VIP<// - 3/26/2020

What is the difference between Gold or VIP<// membership???<//

16 response(s), 15 votes
gabra007 29 M
2  questions
Gold or VIP<// - 3/26/2020

What is the difference between Gold or VIP<// membership???<//

2 response(s), 0 votes
johndickra 30 M
1  question
How to get a partner here? - 3/26/2020

Hey, How get a partner here?

16 response(s), 18 votes
Donde estan las chicas que me quieren ver en cam !! - 3/26/2020

Hay damas a las que les interese jugar cam x cam ? Aprovechemos ahora en cuarentena !!!

4 response(s), 8 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 66 C
46  questions
labels? - 3/26/2020

When I was 15 [nearly 47 years ago] my best friend and I "experimented" in boy boy sex. Both of us are now married women and have no desire for man man sex. Are we still labeled as "bi"? Should my profile be listed as bi? Is there a statue of limitation on this? <br><br> If a man only wants recieve oral is he bi/gay? We laughed when we first heard the term ...

17 response(s), 11 votes
how date you - 3/25/2020

how date you

4 response(s), 4 votes
Silkymadness 56 C
5  questions
Is Swapfinder.com being realistic in their expectations? Are they being fair in their actions? - 3/25/2020

Ok here is the situation. We received this message for Swapfinder.com in our Swapfinder.com mailbox <br><br> Dear Silkymadness, <br><br> Your Icebreaker has been approved and your Gold membership has been activated. You're all set. <br><br> Gold membership gets you unlimited access to photos, profiles, and videos, plus unlimited emails and flirts. ...

30 response(s), 29 votes
Jakov150 59 M
3  questions
How have you been affected personally by Covid19? - 3/23/2020

I was driving around yesterday after work and everything felt like a surreal scene from a dystopic science fiction movie. Restaurants and businesses closed, fewer and fewer planes overhead, and a sense that the worst has not even begun. Yes, I am still horny but practicing social distancing. Still lucky to be employed but sympathetic to those who are not. Watching unemployment claims jump ...

9 response(s), 15 votes
Laidback2freak 50 M
1  question
Am I just a freak or can I love too? - 3/22/2020

I have met and fell in love with the best woman i have ever known.. But I can't help but think about her fucking and sucking another guy while I watch... Can she love if i want see that?

0 response(s), 0 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
COVID19 OR SEX? - 3/22/2020

Wow .. i think people are not serious.This is real. NBC just announced one of there production personnel just died from the COVID19. It is sad but amazing how people still don't get the reality with the death rate in Italy surpassing china. I like sex so much but with this i would choose life. Some guys are insanely mad when you tell them you can't meet .i know the dick will ...

78 response(s), 65 votes
rm_castlemun1 60 C
2  questions
curious - 3/22/2020

does anybody know what rm means when it is used in front of a username?

21 response(s), 21 votes
Is willing to go out bad? - 3/20/2020

I would like to meet someone more than in a chat but with everything going on... Am I a bad person for wanting more and not waiting? <br><br> I am healthy but is breaking the soft lock down rules a bad thing? <br><br> The risk does not sound that high but wonder what others think... love to hear your feedback!

0 response(s), 0 votes
Have you ever dated someone with a disability? - 3/20/2020

Have you ever dated someone with a disability? I have and it was not bad in any way. We both had a great time and nothing bad to say. Somethings change but nothing to mess it up. How about you?

0 response(s), 0 votes
Does the lock down stop you? - 3/20/2020

How are you doing on the lock down? I have gone out for food and could go out to play a bit but how about ya'll? Change anything or is it all the same?

0 response(s), 0 votes
Happyyy899 38 M
1  question
Is the reason you couldn’t be with someone? - 3/19/2020

Mine is if she doesn’t like oral performed on her, I couldn’t live without it

11 response(s), 8 votes
virus - 3/19/2020

Anybody getting paranoid about this virus going around? Does it change your lifestyle any?

36 response(s), 24 votes
RDC916 72 M
2  questions
Dating men w/ ED - 3/18/2020

How many women are willing to date a man with ED? Especially one who will do most anything to please her?

21 response(s), 16 votes
analicaly 69 M
2  questions
Dirty,rotten, cheater or not? - 3/18/2020

I haven't had sex with the wife since 1983. Went to Greece on a remote Communications site for a year. No women and the nearest town over 45 minutes away down a winging road and you don't mess with the women there, you'll get beat up by the locals. I returned and she accused me of messing around so no sex upon my return. She refused my advances for a few years. We have 2 beautiful ...

19 response(s), 4 votes
connection interupted - 3/14/2020

when trying to use the IM window, after a few seconds, an alert saying "connection interrupted " pops up disabling the window. <br><br> what causes this ?

7 response(s), 16 votes
egypharoh21 26 M
1  question
virgin boy who is having sex with a hot mature woman after several month as we planned - 3/13/2020

I never had sex or even got my dick sucked and I wish to perform good and not cum to fast any advice?

23 response(s), 22 votes
drlktrhot 54 M
1  question
Hover Quick View - 3/13/2020

My hover quick view has stopped working, is this just me? Is there a known solution?

15 response(s), 8 votes
DocManther 57 M
1  question
Deep throat skill question? Seriously - 3/13/2020

Is this skill easy because one has a wide esophagus? Or does one train the throat to allow this. My wife has ZERO gag reflex...good right...but just can't get it to go down. She really wants to, but can't. I've never had it so u don't know how to guide her...I'm not going to slam it down.. LOL Any serious help would be greatly appreciated. <br><br> I

19 response(s), 12 votes
Superman4695 35 M
56  questions
Hot listing get removed? - 3/13/2020

I no longer see an option to add anyone. My list is still intact but it does not appear on the thumbnail profile anymore just flirt and message. Any gold members do you still have the option?

10 response(s), 10 votes
After prostrate treatment - 3/11/2020

Guess the question is mostly for the men. But ladies, you can chip in too. Facing the event of might having prostrate cancer and needing to have it treated or removed. Would like to hear from those who had the treatment successfully and how sex has been afterwards. Would also like to hear from anyone who has had prostrate removal and how things have been since. Right now, am doing drugs and ...

20 response(s), 14 votes
nimrod17 57 M
16  questions
How could we increase participation in the Advice Line - 3/10/2020

The advice line is dying. Is that a harbinger of the future of this website? If it does go belly up what are the alternatives?

27 response(s), 20 votes
FFU22018 57 F
19  questions
Ask Me - 3/6/2020

I received a message from a guy today. It said, "Check out my profile, and if interested, let me know". So, I open his profile. There is no picture. The "information" section is filled out, but the "Introduction" is only one sentence. "Not sure what to say...ask." <br><br> I've seen this profile style quite a few times. If one of these ...

42 response(s), 44 votes
zaktpe 45 M
1  question
Does a size making a different? - 3/6/2020

Some girls like a long tool but some like it wide, I'm always wondering if the penetration that's what matters or it's actually the fantasy itself?

43 response(s), 23 votes
Funfriend3258 54 M
1  question
Not getting points for activities. - 3/4/2020

Has anyone else had this issue? I uploaded a pic, no points. I vote on articles, no points. No points for my activities. I’m not to max on points either. I send a question and the answer didn’t address my question.

30 response(s), 32 votes
Have we lost any sense of common courtesy? - 3/3/2020

Can you help me understand why people on Swapfinder.com cannot provide the basic courtesy of replying, even to say 'not interested'. I don't understand why some start a conversation and then bail out. I'm not talking about someone who is rude, that doesn't warrant a response, but some conversations just seem to end abruptly. <br><br> And if given a 'not interested' ...

48 response(s), 41 votes
What is your favorite body type? - 3/3/2020

Do you like thin? Thick? Natural? Implants? Who care? <br><br> I'd like to see, I like change and different things depending on my mood... How about you?

1 response(s), 0 votes
What are you looking for on here? - 3/3/2020

Are you here for online chats, meet new friends, meet lovers, meet booty calls, or to meet the one? Id like to know more of the culture and the general people on here. I'd like to meet local friends but ones willing to meet. How about you? -Jason

2 response(s), 0 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
HIV AND STDs ARE REAL - 3/3/2020

I know we all like sex. i lost a friend years ago to HIV and it was hard to see her suffer. It kills with kindness. She barely rememberd who gave it to her since she slept around alot. Many get on here and wana sample each dick or pussy available. I am considering celibacy since every guy i meet wana sleep around. Kinda exhausting looking for that one guy who just wants one trusted sexual ...

19 response(s), 46 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
HIV AND STDs ARE REAL - 3/3/2020

I know we all like sex. i lost a friend years ago to HIV and it was hard to see her suffer. It kills with kindness. She barely rememberd who gave it to her since she slept around alot. Many get on here and wana sample each dick or pussy available. I am considering celibacy since every guy i meet wana sleep around. Kinda exhausting looking for that one guy who just wants one trusted sexual ...

1 response(s), 0 votes
wildcatr27 52 F
46  questions
what is up with this site - 3/3/2020

is it weird that no one seems to have posted in the last few days? <br><br> anyone else dislike the new flirted format?

30 response(s), 24 votes
margalion 55 C
1  question
Would Buzzmode be a "turn Off" for my Cam viewers? - 2/29/2020

I was thinking of activating the Buzzmode feature when get on Cam (getting that pink toy and wearing it). But I was wondering if that would make me "Less Real" for my regular viewers (as if I'm not doing it just for own enjoyment as an exhibitionist anymore). Most people that watch me enjoy my "real" appeal, as opposed to the fake bored looking cam girls being very very ...

32 response(s), 33 votes
4urpleasur385 39 M
2  questions
Finding a dominant woman to try being a sub for the first time - 2/29/2020

Any tips on where to look for a dominant woman for a first time submissive experience? I have been with submissive women but never a dominant one that is willing to tell me what to do, lead things in the bedroom. Would love to hear some ideas of ways to find someone like that!

13 response(s), 16 votes
4urpleasur385 39 M
2  questions
Finding a dominant woman to try being a sub for the first time - 2/29/2020

Any tips on where to look for a dominant woman for a first time submissive experience? I have been with submissive women but never a dominant one that is willing to tell me what to do, lead things in the bedroom. Would love to hear some ideas of ways to find someone like that!

2 response(s), 2 votes
Working IM - 2/29/2020

I just signed up on here. I get IM's sent that when I try to reply to, they take me to a Credit Card site. I have points so I am confused. Do you have to pay for IM's also?

31 response(s), 46 votes
Rhoids - 2/26/2020

Should you avoid or do anal anyway? <br><br> Gotta get anal

15 response(s), 16 votes
Fred_Wreck 39 M
1  question
New member getting no love - 2/26/2020

Wondering what I'm doing wrong here. I understand that people have their types but its been about a month, should have had at least one beverage date by now. Any advice to be part of the fun would be greatly appreciated.

22 response(s), 15 votes
ludo184253 67 M
2  questions
newbie getting no replies - 2/25/2020

Hi all. I have joined recently but I get no responses to messages or IM. could anyone give me advice on what I should do? Please criticise my profile as I want to chat and get to know people <br><br> many thanks in advance <br><br> <br><br> K

21 response(s), 11 votes
ludo184253 67 M
2  questions
newbie getting no replies - 2/25/2020

Hi all. I have joined recently but I get no responses to messages or IM. could anyone give me advice on what I should do? Please criticise my profile as I want to chat and get to know people <br><br> many thanks in advance <br><br> <br><br> K

2 response(s), 2 votes
cupidisdeadagain 61 F
1  question
Site Help - 2/25/2020

New to this and am wondering if there is a way to IM without paying for a membership?

23 response(s), 23 votes
Thick, thin, or both? - 2/25/2020

So do you like thin, thick, or both? Personally depends on who it is but I use to be all over bean poles but fell for curves because I am a breast man. What do you like?

4 response(s), 0 votes
Have you ever met at the gym? - 2/25/2020

Id love to meet someone at the gym but there is tons of gears in motion, distractions like headphones, and I am not sure on gym culture. Have you ever met someone in the gym? How do you do it?

5 response(s), 0 votes
Cameda11 29 M
2  questions
how to make my girl squirt ?? - 2/24/2020

any advice will be great

20 response(s), 31 votes
Cameda11 29 M
2  questions
how to make my girl squirt ?? - 2/24/2020

any advice will be great

1 response(s), 1 vote
WyoCowboy7751 71 M
5  questions
How is it that ..... - 2/24/2020

I periodically check my profile or make updates and see that I have had X number of Profile Views and X number of Picture Views . The question here is ; How is it that pictures can have more views than profile views ?

26 response(s), 13 votes
youradventurecpl 49 C
2  questions
MFM with a BBC - 2/23/2020

My husband has a fantasy of me being with a BBC in a threesome with him. It's not something I've ever considered or not considered... I guess it's never crossed my mind. i know some women really have a fantasy about it. <br><br> His fantasy is to see it and that the guy has a monster cock. <br><br> Question... pro's and cons?

32 response(s), 36 votes
Lisamariabear 43 F
1  question
Anal - 2/23/2020

What's the best way to have anal sex or the best position to be in when you .first put. The penis in so it doesn't hurt as bad at first

65 response(s), 54 votes
Jakov150 59 M
3  questions
What would you do? - 2/22/2020

Was reading that Mikaela Spielberg the adopted of the famous movie director announced she would be as ex worker as a form of reclaiming her body and dignity after childhood episodes of abuse. Her parents are apparently supporting this career move. Seems a bit crazy and self0destructive to me. Gonna do pole dancing and whatever else to reclaim her over? Why not used daddy's millions and go to ...

17 response(s), 19 votes
Jakov150 59 M
3  questions
What would you do? - 2/22/2020

Was reading that Mikaela Spielberg the adopted of the famous movie director announced she would be as ex worker as a form of reclaiming her body and dignity after childhood episodes of abuse. Her apparent are apparently supporting this career move. Seems a bit crazy and self0destructive to me. Gonna do pole dancing and whatever else to reclaim her over? Why not used daddy's millions and go ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 66 C
46  questions
paranoia/fear of bi men unfounded? - 2/19/2020

I understand and respect PERSONAL PREFERENCES. This post is NOT an attack or dismissal of anyone's choices. What I am asking are the "preferences" due to paranoid thought process. <br><br> Example: <br><br> Single females who say no"bi men". There are many legit reasons or feelings as to why a F chooses that. <br><br> This question ...

43 response(s), 37 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 66 C
46  questions
missing posts - 2/19/2020

What is with all the posts being removed. <br><br> Are we being censored?

17 response(s), 12 votes
ScottyEcv 53 C
3  questions
What's your thought on the subject? - 2/18/2020

Would you tell them upfront that you recognized them from this site? Or Would you not say anything. Using the information you've learned from studying their profile to your advantage?

27 response(s), 24 votes
tightsmoothfuck 30 M
11  questions
Sex and Marriage - 2/17/2020

So, I've seen a lot of the guys I went to high school with get married and have lately. But I'm finding that they're all pretty much complaining that the sex stops after marriage or it's just not the same, which got me thinking... Can a marriage survive if the sex is completely gone but the relationship is still pretty solid?

22 response(s), 13 votes
Whiskeydog6969 47 M
1  question
bad in bed - 2/15/2020

i recently met this woman, very , very horny, problem is she is not very active in bed, she just lays there, she is up for doing anything and everything but she is just kind of boring while doing it. how do I proceed with this? she is very beautiful and likes sex but it sometimes gets boring because she just lays there, help me please, what can I do.

53 response(s), 29 votes
IamBigSir78 42 M
1  question
Sexless Marriages - 2/14/2020

Sexless Marriages <br><br> <br><br> How do you or I or anyone survive a sexless marriage? is cheating and going on Swapfinder.com the solution? When counseling and multiple talks do nothing change the libido or attitudes of the low libido partner. What is one do? You do not want leave your partner, but they are never satisfying needs you have. What is the logical next ...

17 response(s), 14 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 66 C
46  questions
Pardon the 2nd question - 2/12/2020

What are appropriate "question" or subjects here? <br><br> I see a lot of "what advice are you asking for", "this belongs in a blog", and other "not here" comments. <br><br> Often in the "size" type questions get "check the archives" [like a hall of mirrors each post "reflects same thing]. Personal ...

57 response(s), 33 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 66 C
46  questions
What's in a name? gender neutral names etc. - 2/12/2020

When we first started using the internet to chat we used our real names. But because we both have relatively gender neutral names it caused confusion. <br><br> [although it was fun fucking with the single men who thought they were chatting with the female. They'd want to meet 'alone'. After they got me to agree I'd tell them I was the male then ask them when ...

13 response(s), 16 votes
NZ_DashnD 68 M
3  questions
Story Links not working - 2/11/2020

Can anyone tell why the links to a contributors other stories do not work and or if there is a work around to this problem. <br><br> It's really annoying when you come across a great story and want to read others from the same author only to get sent to a blank page. <br><br> Regards, An Avid Reader

12 response(s), 14 votes
VAguy7572020 39 M
2  questions
Do you travel far to meet up? - 2/11/2020

Would you travel far to meet up? How far would you go? Im willing to go within an hour but could be open to more.

6 response(s), 1 vote
Adventurecpl47 76 C
20  questions
BBC as a qualifier in an ad. - 2/11/2020

What is the fascination with a black cock?

35 response(s), 32 votes
Sexei_Doheragary 29 C
2  questions
COUPLES! Were you guys having 3somes and moresomes before you met each other? - 2/11/2020

Maybe one of you were or maybe both of you were. Or maybe this is new for you both! love to know

24 response(s), 23 votes
VAguy7572020 39 M
2  questions
Do you meet new people? - 2/11/2020

Do you meet new people? I tend to be more open, lets meet up for drinks, food, whatever. How about you? Why not enjoy life and take advantage to free time and freedom?

0 response(s), 0 votes
lyavu 51 F
37  questions
SECOND CHANCE !!! - 2/10/2020

I met a guy on the site 2 years ago . We had an instant connection but i got a job promotion two days after our meeting and my schedule became hectic before we could pursue anything. Anyone joins in a management position can relate.We did communicate but he was so impatient to even wait another week. I kept communicating but he never responded to my msgs . Fast forward he contacted me last ...

54 response(s), 37 votes
sextoybabe77 46 F
7  questions
ice breaker...... - 2/8/2020

what happened to the ice breaker and thoughts on the changes to the site

4 response(s), 5 votes
albanynycouple51 63 C
8  questions
input on green door swingers sex club las vegas nv ,how is it ? - 2/8/2020

we going thrus feb 27 and seeking info on the club who goes hows the rooms n play ares ? would you go back ? any and all info welcome ty .
...

4 response(s), 15 votes
Hawkfan533333 35 M
8  questions
First time with a couple - 2/8/2020

I have been approached couples, and it's definitely something I'm interested in. Was wondering if you have any advice on this topic, or if you have joined a couple, what was your experience like the first time.

19 response(s), 12 votes
Fuckinfun6977 60 M
4  questions
Guys - 2/7/2020

What’s more important... spending time with your woman or buying her off with something special?

22 response(s), 29 votes
Fuckinfun6977 60 M
4  questions
Guys - 2/7/2020

What’s more important... spending time with your woman or buying her off with something special?

0 response(s), 1 vote
Fuckinfun6977 60 M
4  questions
Guys - 2/7/2020

What’s more important... spending time with your woman or buying her off with something special?

1 response(s), 2 votes
Fuckinfun6977 60 M
4  questions
Guys - 2/7/2020

What’s more important... spending time with your woman or buying her off with something special?

2 response(s), 0 votes
Thick, thin, or open? - 2/6/2020

Do you like your partner bigger, smaller, or does not matter?

3 response(s), 0 votes
justjames587 55 M
1  question
Meeting people though Swapfinder.com - 2/6/2020

Has anyone actually met up with a real person after connecting on Swapfinder.com?

51 response(s), 36 votes
Is it ok to just ignore people? What makes you talk to someone? - 2/6/2020

If you have not talked to someone, dont know anything about them, and they start a conversation... Is it ok to just ignore them? <br><br> Sure you can play the lazy card but I am the type of person that would respond to anyone who say hi. Why not? That is what we are on here and after talking a bit, sure stop any time ya want but lets meet people! Right? <br><br> The only ...

10 response(s), 4 votes
Here for long term or booty calls? - 2/6/2020

Are you here long term or just meet ups?

3 response(s), 3 votes
Do you meet people on here? - 2/6/2020

Do you meet people on here or just chat? I would really like the meet people but dont want to waste time with people that are not up front and dont want to meet.

3 response(s), 3 votes
JessicaP416 47 M
1  question
Hiya everyone - 2/5/2020

sry to do this but need points

2 response(s), 9 votes
Hawkfan533333 35 M
8  questions
Ex just got divorced - 2/5/2020

So I got engaged to this girl around 9 years ago, and I broke it off because I was 22, and decided I wasn't ready for that kind of commitment yet. So she ended up getting married a few years down the road, but just recently got divorced. She sent me a friend request on Facebook, and we messaged for a short time, which is how I found out about her divorce. So one I dnt know what the friend ...

35 response(s), 22 votes
BRyoung15 29 M
1  question
Anal over vaginal? - 2/4/2020

Anyone like anal over vaginal???

14 response(s), 16 votes
AnewWoman 66 F
139  questions
Grammar, lack of grammar, and culture - 2/4/2020

I am by far not the best with grammar these days, but other than this site dropping keywords occasionally, I would like to think I generally get my point across. We do seem to have our fair share of grammar critics on this site, but I suppose if they can't say something negative about a post they can at least say something negative about the grammar of a post. I use to be married to a ...

44 response(s), 51 votes
Married people - 2/4/2020

Is it relevant to you if the person you are having an affair with is married and cheating ?

52 response(s), 35 votes
Hawkfan533333 35 M
8  questions
Easier on here or in person? - 2/4/2020

Do you think its easier to carry on a conversation on here or in person? Its easier for me in person to carry on a conversation, and to let my personality show. I have a big personality in person, and like to joke and can make people comfortable talking with me. On here it's much harder for me to show that side of myself through typing. Do you have any tips for me. I definitely over think ...

27 response(s), 22 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
First time - 2/3/2020

Who was the first person you cheated with? How did you know them? What did you do?

45 response(s), 58 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
First time - 2/3/2020

Who was the first person you cheated with? How did you know them? What did you do?

7 response(s), 6 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
First time - 2/3/2020

Who was the first person you cheated with? How did you know them? What did you do?

2 response(s), 2 votes
Hawkfan533333 35 M
8  questions
Bi or gay male vs bi/gay female vs transgender. - 2/3/2020

Do you think bi or gay men, bi/gay female or transgender people, are viewed differently? Is it easier or generally more accepted to be a bi/gay male, bi/gay female, or transgender, or is it about equal in your opinion. And if your wondering I identify as bi curious on here, and wld never feel comfortable letting that come out to ppl I know.

23 response(s), 22 votes
biflydog 54 M
5  questions
Feelings... - 2/3/2020

So, you've been playing with a boyfriend/girlfriend couple for some time now, not only threesomes but solo as well. Lately she's been coming over solo more frequently, always with some excuse why he can't make it this time (he's been sick, on a business trip, working late, etc.). Not only that but she's been spending more time with you afterwards, not the wham bam thank you ...

20 response(s), 21 votes
HungUSMCvet 42 M
2  questions
No shows! - 2/2/2020

Why agree to meet then not show up? I get we are all on here for millions of reasons. If you want dirty chat, say so. If you want NSA/FWB, say so. Its not too hard to communicate, we are all adults. Does anyone else have this problem?

49 response(s), 39 votes
stilshoots 77 M
2  questions
Oral sex - 2/2/2020

My FWB and I tried oral sex with her hanging her head over side of bed , she said it was so much better than the usual way . She got really excited by it . Any theories as why ?? I'll have admit I really enjoyed it too.

23 response(s), 29 votes
stilshoots 77 M
2  questions
Oral sex - 2/2/2020

My FWB and I tried oral sex with her hanging her head over side of bed , she said it was so much better than the usual way . She got really excited by it . Any theories as why ?? I'll have admit I really enjoyed it too.

2 response(s), 1 vote
Caught Feelings - 2/1/2020

I met someone from this site and have been seeing him for the past few months. We usually meet once a month to do the deed but we also go to dinner in between our sessions too. My feelings are pretty preliminary, initial crush developing but I don't know what to do or if/how I should tell them. I get pretty mixed feelings from my partner so I'm not entirely sure how he feels. ...

32 response(s), 36 votes
Hawkfan533333 35 M
8  questions
Safety - 2/1/2020

Do you feel generally safe meeting strangers on here. Do you meet first or take precautions. Being a its something iv never even gave a thought to. I'd hate to think I'm heading over to meet someone, and they just go along with it, but in the back of there mind, they're wondering if I'm a predator. What do you generally do, when meeting someone on this sight.

25 response(s), 17 votes
1str8latin 44 M
2  questions
Smelly - 2/1/2020

What's the right thing to do if coming accross a amelly puasy? Say you are undreasing her and at panties removal the smell hits your nose like a piercing burning rotting fish kind of smell?

22 response(s), 18 votes
1str8latin 44 M
2  questions
Smelly - 2/1/2020

What's the right thing to do if coming accross a amelly puasy? Say you are undreasing her and at panties removal the smell hits your nose like a piercing burning rotting fish kind of smell?

8 response(s), 3 votes
Royston912 45 M
10  questions
Our survey says................... - 2/1/2020

Now were in 2020 I was wondering looking back past 20- years and how tech has evolved from phones to computers, cars, and planes, etc. Is there anything you would like to see improved or maybe something else yet to be made which you think would benefit people in the next 20- years. Just shits and giggles, this is people

15 response(s), 9 votes
Sexei_Doheragary 29 C
2  questions
Would you read a Sex Party Blog Post? - 2/1/2020

We're considering writing a blog about a sex party where Sexei had 5 guys and 7 women (not all at once but through the course of the night). Would you read it?

46 response(s), 29 votes
Hawkfan533333 35 M
8  questions
For women - 1/31/2020

It seems like all men are pretty much game for meaningless sex with most any woman will have them if there is a physical attraction. Women can mssg a guy wana come over and fuck, and the awnser is more times then not going to be yes. So why are most women(not all) the complete opposite. Most women wldnt even respond to a mssg like that. Why is this? Why are we so different when it comes to ...

31 response(s), 16 votes
Tallandhansome30 56 M
1  question
Real or Ghost Partner? - 1/31/2020

Have seen several profiles. Where you see a single picture of person. But they say their partner want have with others. But there is no picture of so said partner or description of them. All which makes ask are THEY REAL??

17 response(s), 9 votes
Sudden2020 74 M
5  questions
What happened to the IM Incoming/Busy icon????? - 1/31/2020

Just noticed that the IM Incoming/Busy icon is missing. Now there is no way to tell when someone wants to chat.

25 response(s), 18 votes
newtime001 44 M
1  question
Question - 1/31/2020

After being on this site men outnumbered the women significantly. Begs to question if women have the same urges as men or if they have better control over their urges.

17 response(s), 11 votes
niaff17 28 M
1  question
Isn't what you have to go through.. - 1/31/2020

..just a bit ridiculous to get some bloody ! I think I'll probably give up on this site soon tbh, which is a shame

21 response(s), 11 votes
Being a Sub - 1/30/2020

Is it a requirement that a sub must agree submit any and all those want her. Is there any reason she can't choose whom submit without "losing" her sub status? Or does the very choice of picking her disqualify her from being a sub?

15 response(s), 13 votes
tdw720 64 M
1  question
Has anyone ever used a Money order to purchase a membership - 1/30/2020

Hello Swapfinder.com members! I used to be a gold member & had a blast doing so. When the economy took a nose dive I had to cut some expenses & switch to a standard membership. Now things are starting to look better now I want to go back to GOLD. I do not want to use a credit card & they have a money order alternative that i would like to try. Have any of you used this method of payment ? were ...

15 response(s), 14 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 66 C
46  questions
A poor business venture - 1/30/2020

Every site has good and bad . What my discussion is, do sites like this really want you to succeed? <br><br> If you meet someone from here, they stand to lose two active members. Most likely two paying members. <br><br> So what do you think? Are "dating" sites really set up for ease of meeting?

27 response(s), 25 votes
threesome of one man with two women - 1/29/2020

is it a better experience for the man if the two women are solely heterosexual or if the two women are girl friendly? In short, does it matter or does the guy benefit from being the sole focus of attention of the two women have no sex with each other

20 response(s), 13 votes
threesome of one man with two women - 1/29/2020

is it a better experience for the man if the two women are solely heterosexual or if the two women are girl friendly? In short, does it matter or does the guy benefit from being the sole focus of attention of the two women have no sex with each other

6 response(s), 5 votes
threesome of one man with two women - 1/29/2020

is it a better experience for the man if the two women are solely heterosexual or if the two women are girl friendly? In short, does it matter or does the guy benefit from being the sole focus of attention of the two women have no sex with each other

1 response(s), 1 vote
HungUSMCvet 42 M
2  questions
To stay or go? - 1/29/2020

Would you stay with someone because of the sex? If you have, how did it end?

24 response(s), 17 votes
FFU22018 57 F
19  questions
Getting It Straight - 1/29/2020

Is it okay for women to have a preference for men who exclusively have sex with women, or should she have to HAVE sex with men also engage in sex acts with other men? Is it okay for a man to portray himself as exclusively interested in women, when he, in fact, engages in sex with men? If a man portrays himself as having sex with women, but in fact engages in sex acts with other men, is he as ...

34 response(s), 31 votes
tiredkitty 42 F
2  questions
85,000 points - 1/29/2020

I'm like 100 points away from 85k in points what would you spend them on. my husband thinks i should try most expensive toy. i could also buy 2 years of free member ship or months and months of private , not that i enjoy chatting with many people. <br><br> <br><br> well thanks and i forward hear from you. <br><br> <br><br> ...

33 response(s), 35 votes
How many guys out there have had a threesome - 1/29/2020

Two guys one girl wierd?

41 response(s), 23 votes
robdessertrider2 67 M
5  questions
Do you think a man who likes anal is gay? - 1/29/2020

I am a Bi sexual man, I tend to lean gay, men are just more willing to treat sex as sex, just an act performed for the outcome, not solely attached to LOVE. As for anal play I first experienced it when I found my mothers battery operated rocket. I knew sex was about a man's penis penetrating a woman's vagina. Butt I had only one hole down there, I was hooked instantly. I wore down those ...

22 response(s), 17 votes
Why are women strange in chat? - 1/29/2020

I see women acting strange in chat... whats up with that. I have pics and info I am willing to share but some wont even take a chance and respond. I dont want to waste a good day playing games. Lets go out grab drinks and have fun!

0 response(s), 0 votes
What sites do you like that are like this? - 1/29/2020

I have not tried app and was not happy with dating sites being many games... so what sites like this do you like?

6 response(s), 1 vote
tightsmoothfuck 30 M
11  questions
For All Those Fitness Buffs - 1/29/2020

What's are your favourite things put in your power smoothie after a workout? Looking switch mine up a bit.

11 response(s), 9 votes
Has anyone on here had something long term - 1/28/2020

Have you had long term on here or more play dates?

0 response(s), 0 votes
how is a magazine differnt than blog? - 1/28/2020

I see they have groups, magazines and blogs but it all seems to be the same thing.

28 response(s), 32 votes
AtxSexyChubb 40 M
3  questions
Is he Straight or Gay? - 1/27/2020

I am a gay and a couple of times have watched straight porn with my straight friend. The 1st time we were drunk and I gave him head while he watched straight porn. He didn't get hard all the way and we blamed it on whiskey dick. He did leak his precum all over my face and shirt though. The 2nd time we weren't as drunk and I didn't touch him but he didn't seem to get hard and we ...

51 response(s), 33 votes
For the straight men. - 1/27/2020

question is do men enjoy watching a woman give head? I am straight and not bi but I enjoy watching it in porn and in person. Lets hear your opinions.

25 response(s), 40 votes
if u suck dick, how far can u go? - 1/27/2020

I had someone get it all once.. but it seriously ended up in their stomach and it didn't feel quite right. How far can you suck a big dick?

23 response(s), 29 votes
SexyPerth49 75 M
3  questions
For female subs - 1/27/2020

What are your expectations re financial arrangements if you live with a Dom / Master? Is it usual for a sub to work for employment? <br><br> Thanks

17 response(s), 15 votes
SexyPerth49 75 M
3  questions
Question for experienced male doms - 1/27/2020

What are the usual financial arrangements for a live in salve / domestic servant? <br><br> Thanks

18 response(s), 18 votes
SexyPerth49 75 M
3  questions
Question for experienced male doms - 1/27/2020

Has anyone ever brought a female from another country, and if so what were the financial arrangements? <br><br> Thanks

0 response(s), 2 votes
DaveK3333 49 M
2  questions
Anyone have any luck hooking up here? - 1/26/2020

Would love to hear stories and examples from people hooking up from here.

40 response(s), 21 votes
DaveK3333 49 M
2  questions
Anyone have any luck hooking up here? - 1/26/2020

Would love to hear stories and examples from people hooking up from here.

4 response(s), 1 vote
tightsmoothfuck 30 M
11  questions
Post Affair - 1/26/2020

Serious question time. Has anyone's relationship ever recovered after an affair?

32 response(s), 24 votes
denduzz 62 M
1  question
how can i get more pussy - 1/25/2020

how can i increase the number of times i get laid

31 response(s), 27 votes