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pregnant looking for possible positions - 5/9/2001

7 months pregnant and having problems! need ideas of ways to keep the sex awsome! please help

0 response(s), 0 votes
I'm questioning my sexuality and need to find someone to help, any ideas? - 5/6/2001

I'm currently questioning wether or not I'm bisexual. I'm a 21/f in college and have always found women to be attractive. However, I have never found anyone to try things with. I just got out of a relationship and think that now would be the perfect time to expirement. Does anyone have any ideas on how to find someone who is clean, discreet, and who would understand if I found out that I ...

1 response(s), 0 votes
rm_bouncintiger 42 F
1  question
Finding the right one - 5/4/2001

every man i have dated has been abusive, they start out the sweetest thing you have ever met then you get serious and things go down hill, why? why is it so hard to find the right one?

1 response(s), 0 votes
Testicles, Why Some Hang low and some Dont? - 4/29/2001

Hi, I have a Question, My Testicles, dont hang low like other guys do, why is it that some Hang more low than others.And No I dont have undescended Testicles.I welcome any Feedback.

1 response(s), 0 votes
girlfriend broke up with me because I performed cunnilingus on her? - 4/22/2001

I don't know what happened I started to perform cunnilingus on my girl friend and she broke up with me.She said that a man that would do something sick like that is no man for her. she told me to stop watching pornos and that I was disgusting.she won't even talk to me anymore. Are there any women out there that would let me perform this on them. I am new to this but I would really ...

1 response(s), 2 votes
Too much musturbation? - 4/20/2001

I musturbate 3-4 times a week and each time it last for an hour. Am I masturbating too much. Is it wrong to imagine fucking my friends' wife when I masturbate.

1 response(s), 0 votes
30y/male looking for a woman to teach me how to bring a woman to orgasm - 4/10/2001

I am a 30 year old single white male. I am looking for a patient and understanding women to teach me how to bring a women to orgasm. through oral and straight sex. I am looking for someone honest to tell me what I am doing wright or wrong.I want to learn how to please a woman like no other.are there any women out there who are willing to help me? Age and race is not important. ...

4 response(s), 2 votes
I WANT FUCKING LAADDIES - 4/7/2001

HOW CAN I GET THE LADDIES FOR SUCKING FFUCKING AND FOR DRINK THIER SWEET LIPS AND SWEET PUSSY.

0 response(s), 0 votes
Bi-curious wanting to suck another cock - 4/4/2001

im 19 and have been wanting to try sucking another cock for a while. ive always thought it would be great to suck and to get sucked by another male, but ive never tried it. anybody else with similar thoughts?

0 response(s), 0 votes
male4u698 62 M
1  question
just wondering if others have the same problem - 4/3/2001

i have had a add in here for about a year, i wrote to people, but i never ever get a answer back, why dont women write back, was thinking that we are all looking for the same thing, was just wondering, thinks

10 response(s), 4 votes
THE BEST WAY TO PICK UP GIRLS - 3/24/2001

I WANT KNOW HOW TO GET A GIRL YOU WANT IN BED. I HAVE A LOT OF LADIES FRIEDS BUT MOST OF THE TIMES I CAN'T GET THEM INTO MY BED, SO WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO GET INTIMATE COS, I TALK TO THEM FOR HOURS BUT NOTHING COMES OUT OF IT, SHOW ME WHAT SIGNS TO LOOK FOR? PLEAEEEEEESE

0 response(s), 1 vote
How do I start a discrete relationship with a married lady? - 3/23/2001

I a married male. My wife and I don't have sex anymore. I'm looking for a female to have a discrete relationship with. I don't know where it will lead but I'm open to anything. How do I find a partner.

1 response(s), 0 votes
giving oral sex to women whats the best technique? - 3/22/2001

Can the women out there please give a beginner some tips for giving mind-boggeling oral sex to a women Thank you for your time!

1 response(s), 0 votes
how do i win her heart - 3/15/2001

this girl is cute, were freinds infact we got for lunhc often with another close friend of mine and hers and he is setting me up, but the thing is i am not sure she likes me how do i do this and she does not get easily satisfied as in gifts and stuff dont really bothe her i have come to a astage where i want to ask her to be mine but i am not sure it will work. she is very open and i think ...

1 response(s), 0 votes
What do men like when they get head? - 3/13/2001

I am trying to figure out, what i can do to plz my man better... when i give him a blow job? I want to plz him better ? what can i do ? SexyLatinGal~

4 response(s), 0 votes
jackoff another? Is it worth it? - 3/10/2001

I've been offered to join a group of very attractive women for loads of fun [their video is proof]. They have all been together several times and in different combinations but have never had a guy involved in their parties. Now they want to but there is one catch. The 2 guys [me and another] can do with them as we wish BUT they want to watch us jerk each other off while they are getting ...

2 response(s), 1 vote
supernaut_uk 59 M
1  question
Men's Butts - Do women really find them sexy ???? - 3/6/2001

Do women really find a 'nice' Butt on a man a turn on ?? Or is it just another myth ?

1 response(s), 2 votes
Does it count as cheating? - 3/1/2001

Do you consider it cheating when bam9366 has linked to this site while his wife is sitting at home waiting for him? They don't swing so what is he looking for if not someone else to have sex with. She never turns him away, she is always there for him. She thinks he loves and wants only her. So, what is up, bam9366?

1 response(s), 1 vote
Need Help Getting My Man Interested!!!!!! - 2/27/2001

I have been married for 9 years and I have never been able to have an orgasim with anyone. I had one with my husband a long time ago. He is always interested in trying new things and I have never been very sexually active until now. I have learned things about having an orgasim but I have to do it myself. He has been on the internet seeking discreet affairs and emailing other women. He says ...

0 response(s), 1 vote
Huge Cock with No use! - 2/18/2001

I am from a place where Sex is a taboo. If you are unmarried there is no other way than masterbation for your sexual needs. Though I have a huge impressive dick, I have never used it my life. It is used only for pissing for the last 40 years. What to do?

1 response(s), 4 votes
funtime24sexxx 40 C
2  questions
Swinging in Oregon????? - 2/16/2001

Where are the good places to go in Oregon. We are new at this so it would be helpfull to know where to go to see if we are into this type of thing and maybe get started

1 response(s), 0 votes
Sex on the Mind - 2/5/2001

All I do is think about sex. At work, at home, everywhere. My problem is that my wife's sex drive is not very strong at this time in her life. Before we were married, her drive was probably as strong as mine and maybe even stronger. Once she got pregnant that basically stopped and hasn't even remotely resurfaced again. Our is over 1 year now. We have watched porn together to try to ...

1 response(s), 0 votes
Girlfriend is far away...? is it worth it? - 2/4/2001

I have been dating the same girl for about half a year now, but for most of that time we have not even been in the same state or country. We started out as close friends in school, but hooked up before she left to go study in a foreign country. I just got back from visiting her and some things had changed about her (like her apperance)that has sort of made me feel ...

2 response(s), 0 votes
Embarrassed with my Long Thick One! - 2/2/2001

I was having normal penis before. I thought it is better to have a very long and thick one and tried different kind of techniques and wasted a lot of money. Nothing worked well. However recently I went for a new system, and it worked. Now my penis is 9" long anf 5 inch in girth. The prblem is that even when it is not erect it is almost 6" and huge. I can't go to swimming pool and beach. ...

11 response(s), 1 vote
Why do I lose erection during sex? - 1/30/2001

My question is why I lose erection sometimes during sex. I have a strong history of masturbating since i was in junior high school. But I had sex for the first time when I was 25. I lost my erection during this intercourse. I thought it was because I was nervous. But twice so far with my girlfriend, it got soft on me before I would even cum. What are some reasons that I would lose ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
rm_ronniep123 46 C
1  question
Why do men like to see their wives make love to other men? - 1/25/2001

I have often wondered about this desire of mine to see my wife with another man or another woman. This is not something which most people can understand but knowing that there are similar people out there I make this endeavour to find out as to what is the psychology behind this kind of desire. More so when generally the lady feels offended and let down with the thought of her husband ...

12 response(s), 7 votes
can,you help me cross dress in lingerie? - 12/19/2000

I love dressing in lingerie, it feels so goodon my skin. very beautiful colors, and prints.

0 response(s), 0 votes
SEXYBABE12122 43 F
4  questions
Does it hurt the first time? - 12/5/2000

Is the first time having sex painful for females?If so is it easier after that?

0 response(s), 1 vote
ORAL SEX WITH ANOTHER FEM - 10/31/2000

Should I try to give up my taste for another woman when I love it so good because I can't find any in my area who truly want to lay back and let another woman eat her off ? And, maybe eat a little pussy herself? Most just have husbands who want to watch and they will do it to please them. Thats not what I want. How do I let another woman I see on the street know that I'd Like to make ...

1 response(s), 1 vote
looking to swing - 10/31/2000

I'm from the chicago area and would like to find some swinger hangouts for my wife and I hope someone out there can help.

1 response(s), 0 votes
rm_Pogi55 64 M
1  question
Sensual and erotic e-cards - 10/30/2000

Does anyone know of some good sites that have sensual and erotic e-cards or poems you can send to your lover? I know of a number such as: <br> <br> http://www.cheek2cheek.com/ http://cards.lovingyou.com/ http://www.naughtycards.com/ http://www.fineartnude.com/card.html http://andrea2001.homestead.com/thechainreaction.html <br> as well as Swapfinder.com's own nude cards ...

1 response(s), 0 votes
bueller2000 65 M
1  question
What's better for women, oral or intercourse? - 10/23/2000

What do women like better-A guy to lick and tongue their pussy or the average dick inside them? Some women need you to rub their clits while you have intercourse. Is this because they have lost some sesitivity?

1 response(s), 0 votes
Penis strengthening-Piston-pumping power or limp biscuit? - 10/16/2000

I keep seeing these ads online about adding inches to your penis through exercises. Is there anyone out there who has tried this technique. If so, were there any positive results acquired. Just Wondering!

1 response(s), 0 votes
rm_dmcc445465 57 M
1  question
Is it possible for me to help wife try swinging? - 10/12/2000

I'm adventurous and she isn't as much. We've been married for about 10 years now. Sexually, she loves me to suck her clit for hours on end. She doesn't like to give me head because of my penis size. I've already told her my fantasy was to watch her with another man, woman, or couple. She says I've already fullfilled all of her fantasies. I'm her first and only so far. She's admitted in the ...

2 response(s), 0 votes
Is wife cheating? - 9/22/2000

I just got back from a 7 month tour of duty in Bosnia. I've got this felling my wife fooled around when I was gone....My question is there any sure fire ways to find out???

2 response(s), 0 votes
Help! Help! I need to be saved!!! - 9/17/2000

Is it possible for American Blonde to be saved by an "Arabian Knight" for and evening of limitless pleasures living in the N.Y. area??

1 response(s), 0 votes
laidbacknforth 54 M
1  question
How do I get attractive women to go out with somone as ugly as me? - 9/11/2000

I can't figue out how to get dates with attractive women. My problem is, I'm not blessed with any good looks or a good body or lots of intelligence. I don't have to date a model, just someone attractive and nice.

1 response(s), 1 vote
i want a bigger and thicker dick how could i do it?? - 9/11/2000

what is the best way to make my cock bigger and thicker i am not against pills but if you have a natural method tellme

1 response(s), 1 vote
Bf's Dad- how can i get him? - 8/7/2000

i'm sexually attracted to my boyfriends dad.hes just 46 years old and so fit. he has a good sense of humor and everytime i met him i got to like him more and more. he's no longer married coz hes separated. i want to start a sexual relationship with him but i'm afraid he'll not go for it coz i'm his sons girl?i really want him and will do anything so i can taste him. help me please. what ...

6 response(s), 3 votes
openmindedone48 69 C
0  questions
getting started with another couple - 7/22/2000

next month my wife and i are going to dinner with another couple who i know is curious about swinging. how do i go about getting things started ? my will be away from home for the night so i thought of bringing back to my house after dinner. but i am lost on how to get things warmed up

0 response(s), 2 votes
rm_Jasontan100 40 M
1  question
Problem? Cunnilingus vs. Penetration. - 7/21/2000

Is it a problem when most of my sex fantasies focused on cunnilingus instead of penetration? I fantasized on seeing females fingering themselves, & cunnilingus, a lot more often than other ?activities?. It just seems to me that ?licking? is more enjoyable than ?entering?. It may due to that I?m still a VIRGIN(I really don?t know) or is it actually a problem?

1 response(s), 0 votes
CLEAN ANAL SEX??? - 7/13/2000

My girl loves anal sex, whether it's my cock or toys. How can we have anal and not end up with "dirty" bits and pieces? It can be a bit of a turn off!

2 response(s), 1 vote
Measuring Dick Size - 6/22/2000

What is the standard or accepted way to measure your dick? Is there a proper way? I hear a lot about dick size and I was wondering how do you measure it. Thanks!

0 response(s), 0 votes
MY WIFE LOVES THE SEX< BUT THAN FEELS GUILTY - 6/15/2000

My wife has had a couple of swinginging encounters with another guys while I watched. She absolutely loved the sex. She had multiple orgasms each time. However, a couple of days after she always feels guilty. She says she is married and it is morally wrong. I enjoy seeing her have this sexual fulfillment and don't feel threatened. Could it be because of her Catholic upbringing. How do I ...

0 response(s), 3 votes
69Licker007 41 F
1  question
Bi/Gay Women-How do I find them? - 6/8/2000

I am a 20 year old bicurious female and I have tried everything to meet women who would be interested in having sex with me. I don't know how to do it because I haven't met one to date. It makes me mad because everyone I know talks about bi/gay females like they are a dime a dozen. My problem is that I'm trying to be discreet because I have a boyfriend. Is there any advice for a ...

3 response(s), 2 votes
Any advice to get my girl to try anal sex? - 4/26/2000

One of my biggest fantasies is anal sex but I've never been able to try it. My girl won't have anything to do with it. Anyone got any ideas on how to get her to try it.

1 response(s), 0 votes
Wives girlfriend flirts.. - 4/20/2000

My Wifes girlfriend flirts with me all the time. She is also married. She grabs my ass when the wife isn't looking. <br> Should I make a move? ?

2 response(s), 0 votes
conejito00 46 M
1  question
WHERE CAN I FIND MARRIED WOMEN FOR DISCREET REALATIONSHIPS IN JAPAN - 4/11/2000

MATURE WOMEN ALWAYS FASCINATED ME BECAUSE OF THEIR EXPERIENCE AND CARE...I NEED SOME ATTENTION

1 response(s), 1 vote
MY BEST FRIENDS BOYFRIEND--HOW DO I TELL HER - 4/1/2000

EVERYONE THINKS ME AND MY BESTFRIENDS BOYFRIEND HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON, BECAUSE HE AND I ARE LIKE BROTHER AND SISTER. BUT I DONT SEE HIM IN THAT WAY ANYMORE AND EVERYONE WE WORK WITH MAKES STUPID, ANNOYING COMMENTS THAT MAKE ME MAD. I WOULD NOT PUT MY FRIENDSHIP WITH HER OR HIM ON THE LINE FOR ANYTHING. BUT HOW DO I TELL EVERYONE ELSE THAT, AND GET THEM TO STOP SAYING THINGS?? MY ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
Performing anal sex on a woman - 2/24/2000

Are their any possibilities that a woman can be hurt during anal sex. What is the best way to go about it so that it is most pleasing for both people.

1 response(s), 0 votes
BBW? do men really like fat women? - 2/18/2000

Everyone knows losing weight is almost impossible for an older woman...but I'm doing it and want to reward myself with sex - pound for pound! <br> I'd like to know if men really like fat women because now that I've had sex after a long hiatus, I want /more/ than sex - how does a BBW know if a guy is truly interested in her for both sex and companionship...I want a guy ...

1 response(s), 1 vote
Witness 53 M
1  question
IUD's, Are they safe and sure? - 2/15/2000

Girlfriend's having a IUD (Internal uterary device) as a form of birth control. Has any women had the proceedure who can tell me if it's safe as well if it's an effective form of Birth Control?

3 response(s), 1 vote
Wife won't talk about fantasies - 2/8/2000

I'm unable to get my wife to talk about her fantasies and desires and I'm looking for suggestions. She was brought up that sex was a dirty thing not to be talked about and finds it difficult and embarrassing to talk about what she wants. She has no problem asking what I want and is pretty willing, but for the life of me I can't get out of her what she wants so I can fulfill it. Any ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
rm_cleo2298 47 F
1  question
How to get sex? - 1/17/2000

I'm 22 and a virgin. I'm a horny girl and want some. I'm overweight and can't find anybody to have sex with me.Whether it's male or female I don't care, as long as I can get some.Help ME!

2 response(s), 0 votes
rm_rick3456 43 M
1  question
Eating Out Women - 1/13/2000

I need everyones help please, my girlfriend loves to be eaten out but Ive only ever doneit to one girl before. Is there any special way to do it. What drives them wild? Girls I would love to hear your advice especially, because your the ones who know best

2 response(s), 1 vote
Sex During Pregnancy??? - 1/11/2000

Is it alright for a couple to continue having sex while she is pregnant? My girlfriend is 2 months pregnant so I'm worried now for her and the fetus. I've heard sex can still be possible but not as often as when she's not pregnant. What are some (or the best) position(s) to have sex. How long can we still continue to have sex before we have to refrain from it completely until she has ...

1 response(s), 1 vote
ANONGUEST 46 C
1  question
interested in a threesome. - 12/14/1999

I have had the same girl for about a year now. Honestly i am getting a little bored. i was wondering if anyone had any tips on how i could go about asking her if she is interested.

3 response(s), 2 votes
girlfriend isn't good at oral sex-hints? - 12/6/1999

My girlfriend isn't very good at giving oral sex and doesn't like to do it. She tries occasionally but I don't feel much arousal. Does anyone have advice on how to help her improve without upsetting her? She is a very petite girl and doesn't have a real large mouth. She wants to learn but is embarassed.

0 response(s), 0 votes
rm_ChadJC1 53 M
1  question
Is there anyone out there??? - 11/28/1999

I have been with Swapfinder.com for about a year now and I have not rec ieved any mail from anyone out there. I have posted a pictu re and filled out, what I thought to be a good description o f myself and what I'm looking for. But judging from my resp onses, or lack there of, I must be doing something wrong. I also have been e-mailing women that interest me but also ha ve not recieved any ...

4 response(s), 4 votes
Is intercourse very important? - 11/8/1999

Is intercourse very important....? or is it just a natural ending to a sexal experience...?

1 response(s), 0 votes
Foot fetish - do women mind? - 10/27/1999

I'm a male with a foot fetish. 99.9% of womens feet don't do anything for me - but then some feet just turn me on. I like to masturbate using these wonderful feet. Do women mind and just go along - or do they find it a turn on?

2 response(s), 1 vote
rm_Clio23 49 F
1  question
Photos-Where do I get them - 9/21/1999

I want photos done, but can't travel too far. Can anyone help???

0 response(s), 0 votes
Finding a bi/curious female-whats the best way? - 8/25/1999

I want to try being with another woman in a sexual way? How should I approach someone if I don't know they are interested in that?

0 response(s), 0 votes
How/where do we learn more about B&D stuff? - 8/23/1999

We're a couple, reasonably attractive, publicly very conservative, who've been playing around & experimenting with B&D privately. He's dominant, she's submissive. The further we go, the more we like it. Discretion is paramount for us. We don't know any other couples (or do we? who might open some doors to new experiences and share their knowledge, and maybe even their playrooms, ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
Fisting-Is It for REAL? - 7/7/1999

I have seen videos that women are fist-fucked by another person {(usually a female)} Are these women with the worlds biggest pussies or WHAT? Also, what about ass-fisting, is it dangerouse, as in ruptures or tears? IF not, what is a good technique to follow?

7 response(s), 2 votes
What's a married man to do? - 6/17/1999

I'm a married man who is in a sexless marriage. My wife and I have not been intimate for over a year and I am going crazy. I've been chatting with women in my area about possible intimate get togethers. I tell them all up front that I am married and what my circumstances are. When I do this, I'm shut down and lose any chance of having sex. I'm not looking for a divorce. I'm not ...

3 response(s), 2 votes
orallyyours69ak 75 C
1  question
Cum drinkers - how many are there? - 6/14/1999

We don't consider ourselves kinky, but we love oral sex - especially to completion. I drink my wife's squirt, and she drinks my cum. We are wondering how many people out there love the heterosexual act of swallowing all of the cum after sucking someone to completion. Does the average woman like sucking men to completion? Does she swallow it or spit it out? Does the average man drink the sexual ...

11 response(s), 9 votes
Discreet locations -- where and how? - 4/8/1999

In cases where one or more of the parties desiring sexual relations is attached, location is a big problem. When there isn't a location readily available, what should we do? There's always in the car, but there is the problem of where to park without arousing suspicion. And a car can sometimes get a little uncomfortable and restrictive. Hotels seem like a good alternative, but ...

8 response(s), 3 votes
Why do we have to be so frustrated in India? - 3/5/1999

We call it the land of Kamasutra. Our ancestors perfected the art of love. But what has happened now? Why are we all hiding, running away? Its unbelievable that all 80 million people cringe their nose at the mention of sex. Comeon, its just as beautiful an emotion as love itself. Why restrict it to forced marriges? Why not comeout and experiment? It isn't just a metaphor, that people call 'having ...

9 response(s), 5 votes
How can I change the taste of my honey's sperm? - 2/28/1999

I love to have oral sex with my honey. He is very good at eating me until I scream and I love to suck his dick. His sperm tastes like bleach and everyone I've asked said their husband or boyfriend has the same taste. Can I change his diet? Can I eat or drink something right before we do it, please help.

29 response(s), 19 votes
Andrew 56 M
2  questions
How do you start a threesome? - 2/25/1999

I've been seeing this guy now for about three months but I miss my last boyfriend. My last boyfriend and I still talk on the phone and I want to sleep with him again. I think my current boyfriend is open minded but I dont want to mess up our relationship. I am thinking about proposing a threesome but don't know how to do it.

24 response(s), 7 votes